This might sound like it should be in relationships but in my head this is a property question as I’m trying to weigh up the property positives & negatives in different scenarios.
DP and I together 4 years. We live 2 hours apart. He can do his job from anywhere whereas I am in the office 3 days per week and wfh 2 days. He has twins who are 9 who he has 50% of the time (they do week on, week off and split the holidays).
We’d like to move in together and the secondary benefit of this is the current cost of living, increased mortgage costs and utility bills. We’re running 2 houses but in the weeks he doesn’t have the DTs he lives at mine (and gives me money for heating and buys groceries etc).
We need to have a property close to DTs as he’s a committed Dad and would never consider moving away and not seeing them regularly, so the obvious thing is to sell my property and move in with him (or we buy a new place together in the same area).
Except…I love the area I live, my life and my friends are here and I need to be relatively close to work. I don’t have children and whilst his are lovely I am worried how that might change if I live there and as they get older.
This means we are at a stalemate and continue to keep 2 houses
What would other people do? Yes, in hindsight i should have considered this at the start of our relationship but tbh after finding some proper duffers on OLD I approached each new date with a “let’s see how it goes” and this one took off and before I knew it we are here!
What would others do? Keep 2 properties (think of the equity being built up etc), move into his and pay off one mortgage quicker (sell or rent mine) etc.