BAD neighbours

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Does anyone have any GOOD news/positive outcomes in shitty neighbour scenarios? I am losing the will with mine - too complex to go into (neighbour is batshit) but cops, council, MP etc involved. I am disheartened (FUCKED OFF). I would love to know it can get better/someone will eventually get their finger out and sort this shit.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, in my experience, and from stories I've heard, generally it only gets better when one of you moves. Is that a possibility for you? You don't mention whether your neighbour owns the property or is renting from an HA / council. If the latter there may be some hope.

The good news in your case is that the authorities are involved already. Many people have to spend months recording incidents, calling the police / council, before anyone will listen. It may be that you just have to keep reporting every incident and pressuring them to act so it doesn't fall off their radar.

Meanwhile, if noise is part of the issue, have you tried noise-cancelling headphones? They have saved my sanity on many occasions.

I hope things improve for you.

Unfortunately not. We had to move 😞

I absolutely do not want to move. The NHF won't either. Both owners. Only one of us is nuts. Only one of us has terrorised the neighbourhood for years and got away with it. And noise isn't an issue at all. I absolutely will keep on and keep adding to my extensive notes...it's just exhausting and part of me just feels deflated and defeated at the moment and I need a win/some hope.

We had 12 years of hell with our horrible neighbours. Tried using Community Warden but they just denied absolutely everything.
Finally got peace when they moved but tried telling everybody that they had to move because of us and other neighbours. Luckily they all knew by then what absolute arseholes they were

Yes!! We had awful problems when our adjoined neighbours moved in - drug use, police visits, dogs… Anyway, I knew any paper trail would make our house harder to sell (nice area - we had VERY decent equity) so I swallowed it back and tried to build relations. Three years on and we had no issues anymore. In fact, I’d say they were pretty good neighbours other than some clashing of tastes at times! We eventually moved but that was to upsize & for secondary school catchment rather than because of neighbours. There is hope!

I know how you feel, we moved into our home 2 years ago and if I would have known what the neighbours were like on the one side of us, I never would have moved in, They are filthy just chuck rubbish wherever in their garden which spills under the fence to ours, no manners, they try to intimidate (but that just makes me laugh literally), druggies, shout and swear at their young children literally calling their kids stupid and see you next Tuesdays, their families and friends are the same, their dogs bark at everything and try to get to my dog. So much more that’s happened on top of that but I’d be here all day. They are literally the odd ones out on the close. Makes sense why the rent wasn’t ridiculous for a four bed. The close is actually really nice and most neighbours are really nice and respectful and dislike these neighbours but the house is owned by one of the neighbours parents so highly doubt they will be moving anytime soon just so crap to have to live next door to them tbh. Trying to wait it out another year or so. But is not easy at all.

We had a shit neighbor, police put in a 'no contact order' (he was caught by the police threatening us) and then fortunately he moved.

When we put and offer on a house and got accepted (but it fell through due to a seller issue with ownership) we found out afterwards he was the neighbor of that house too... so nearly ended up with the twat as a neighbor again.

We had a nightmare neighbour, basically just smiled and said hello and never reacted to anything, he was always spoiling for an argument/drama and was quite intimidating, he calmed down a bit and pretty much just went quiet when we didn't react and were just surface level nice (he would sometimes have periods of not making hassle for us as he was either too ill or too drugged up).

We did move though eventually, made sure to never leave a paper trail of complaints, although we had about a year of him not being too bad before we left. (But I was too worried about him ramping up his behaviour again to relax)

I miss my old house in some ways but much prefer where we've moved, even though it is a fixer upper and our old house was completely renovated.

After nearly 3 years of utter hell ! Ours are up on court the 31st of this month for a final eviction hearing. We stay in a beautiful place it’s rural and a housing association built 5 homes beside ours. No issues with that initially until they housed a couple who are evil ! 19 households here complained, the police were useless their housing association was useless. We got local councillor involved and an MP and things finally got moving.

But even at that they’ve got two kids unemployed etc so no doubt they’ll get away with it at court next week. The law is a disgrace the way it protects these people. I hope you get sorted.

We put a camera up and recently a fence on our boundary to stop the trespassing on our drive then there little shit of a kid decides to starts to grab and wobbling it. It’s all on camera too bloody idiots. Thing is if I go and say something again I will loose my temper. I have 5 children not one of them steps foot on any neighbours property. It’s just so disgusting. Don’t think I can stomach another year of it all, like the rubbish and mice and just hearing the woman’s voice next door makes me want to be sick. Hate is being pleasant for how I feel about them.

I definitely know how you feel. Don't rise to it. Your camera should provide the evidence you need.

Wow - imagine! That would have been horrific.

The law is indeed a disgrace. And sometimes (in my case) the police are equally useless

Funnily enough one of my previous properties had a nightmare neighbour.

He was utterly mad, old and his family up north. Semi detached house with his and lived in fear that one day he would burn down his house and take us with him by mistake- adult social care was poor in our area. Used to sit propped his sun lounger right out side his front door on the boundary line of our house and sit there drinking and knocking on the door saying that people had broke into my house and his and robbed us (never happened) and various other strange things vs .

He told a neighbour we running an underground cat selling business from our basement(we only have one cat who's a boy old and neutered and we didn't have a basement). Utterly utterly mad. Everyone knew he was bonkers and obviously unwell but it felt like one thing after another.

But when he called the police to say we had come home with a little girl that he had never seen before (who was my 3 year old dd who was born in that house and had met my neighbour several times) I was like this isn't normal he's very unwell and flagged everything to the police who I think spoke to his family and action was taken. Mainly due his mind rather than his body failing

He got moved to a home but periodically gets let out on day release and sees some of the other neighbours (with carer in tow), and sometimes asks how the kittens are doing 😅😅

At the time I was driven so demented I cried but now I can see the funny side. But god was it awful and took about 5 years to get sorted.

Oh the stories that man would tell, worst thing is no one warned me he was "unwell" so in the beginning I believed him.

I don't know how much of a happy story this is but hopefully gives you a chuckle op

The police have been completely useless ! However when they call the police which they do weekly making up outlandish lies the police come running.

However it’s only got to where it is due to so many of us banding together. You wouldn’t even believe me if I listed the things these people have done.

It’s exhausting when all you want is to live in peace and nice clean and tidy environment.

What are the chances 🤦‍♀️ could you imagine moving in and reslising 😳

Just wanted to say thank you for telling me not to rise to it, I’m not going to rise to it as that’s what they want a reaction, I’ll just keep documenting and get on with life as best as I can, and of course keep my head up. Life has a way or dealing karma to people who are horrid I know that much. You’re right it is mentally draining and no one should have to live like this. But your not alone 😊