Moving house nerves anyone?

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Hi all... Very first world problems but DP and I have just exchanged on our new house and I'm feeling nervous and a bit sad. Has anyone else felt the same? We're moving from a lovely tiny flat in London to a bigger place outside London, it's the right move for us but I'm not great at coping with change and I love the flat where we live now. I'm so worried about the cost of heating a bigger place and all the extra cleaning and maintenance. We're going to be further away from work, our friends and everything will be less convenient compared to here where things are on our doorstep. I know I shouldn't complain and we're extremely lucky but I can't help but feel our lives are changing so much. 😢

In my experience it's quite normal to have that, 'Oh, what have we done feeling' once you exchange. The die is cast then and it all gets a bit real.

Have you tried talking through with your husband all the reasons why you decided to make this move, to this house in the first place? You must have had valid reasons that seemed sensible and desirable at the time and are now having a bit of a wobble about the unknown.

It's a big upheaval and normal to feel a bit intimidated about the next stage. We moved in to our new house on Friday. Last Wednesday I was up to my ears in packing boxes, looking at a week of work and frankly dreading the whole thing. Today, we're in our new house, all unpacked, pictures on the wall and wine in the fridge. We've met the new neighbours who have all been wonderful. I've spent a lovely day pottering in the garden surrounded by birds and I'm happy as can be. It'll all work out alright and be worth it in the end.

I think there's bound to be a bit of a bump down to earth. There's so much adrenaline running around your body during the buying process, so much stress and worry and excitement and everything else, I think once you reach a place where actually it's all definitely happening, all that stuff in your body is looking for something else to get stressed about, so goes into "oh, god, what have I done?" mode.

It will be a big change though, new phase of your life and everything. The important thing is to treasure the memories of the good times you've had where you are, but don't try and replicate that life in the new place. Make the most of the new opportunities and the things you can do that you couldn't where you are now.

Lots af people find change very unsettling. It’s the familiarity that you are so used to. I know it’s difficult but this is a whole new exciting chapter for you. Just try to take this slowly. I remember buying my 1st house and feeling sad about leaving my tiny flat.

Hi! Yes! Me!

We are due to exchange in 2 weeks time, we only accepted the offer 3 weeks ago and it's all gone very fast after our previous 4 sales falling through. It felt like it was never going to happen, tears were shed, and now it's all happening so fast.

We're moving about 40 minutes drive away to a new city that we've never lived in before. There's so much more space, lovely walks, will be great for our dog. We love the new house, it's a proper dream home for us, never thought we'd be able to get something this good! But I'm terrified! I'm worried we'll miss our current house. It's so cosy and we worked hard to get it exactly how we want it. I'm worried my new 40 minute commute will be awful compared to my current 15 minute whiz down the motorway.

So much to think about and plan and mull over. But solidarity!

Yes me too... Getting ready to move into a property that I've been renovating, and selling the small but perfectly formed house I've lived in for more than two decades, which I will miss very much. Two previous sales have fallen through and the renovation has been a protracted nightmare so I've been in limbo for a long while, but now it is starting to feel very real. Every so often I get a wave of nausea and panic. I know it's the right move for me, but that doesn't calm the nerves. I'm trying to focus on a point in the future when I will have moved and everything will have settled down again.

Thanks ladies for your stories - helps to know I'm not alone/being unreasonable! Feel a bit better now but still sad about leaving our home 😔

Best of luck OP! I did a massive move out of London about a year ago.
It'll be spring soon and that's always a good time to move and meet new people.