Supposed To Be Moving in Two to Three Weeks - Panic & Uncertainty is Taking Over Me

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As the title suggests, I’m having so many doubts and don’t know what to do. I can’t explain why, the house we’re moving to is gorgeous, but so is my current house too (just gorgeous in a different way).
As I’m clearing out 11 years worth of our life from cupboards and drawers etc, I find myself thinking “the next house doesn’t have a place to put this” or similar, and it’s making me panic.
We’re not downsizing, but the layout of the next house is very different…..I just can’t imagine myself living there now, whereas, when we first viewed the place it felt like home immediately and I could picture us living there and pottering in the beautiful, south facing garden on sunny days.

I’m so confused and know that I would be letting my buyer and the person from whom we’re buying down massively if I pulled out (I'd also probably regret pulling out if I actually did tbh)

We are moving to a slightly nicer area about 6 miles from where we live now, so will still work at same place and socialise with friends in same manner, and I know once we’ve found out how everything works at the next house, slept there, had breakfast dinner tea there and unpacked our belongings etc, it will start to feel like home. Having said that though, my insides are churning on a daily basis and I want to wave the white flag to surrender and say “I’m out/ staying put”

The bizarre thing is I work in an estate agent and communicate with people day in and out re moving, telling them all will be fine, yet I can’t seem to take my own advice.

Can anyone give me words of encouragement please. 🙏

Really feel for you. I don’t find moving easy hence been in current house for a long long time. I think you will find that it’s common to fear a move everything feels so unfamiliar. Maybe jot down the reasons why you are moving and all the pluses etc. Wishing you happiness and peace in your lovely new home.

No great words of advice OP but I get you completely - I'm moving house next week and getting the fear. It's been a long time coming- we first put the house on the market 18 months ago, lost two houses and four buyers in that time and now that missives are all concluded, I'm feeling more anxious than ever.
I'm bad for having a bit of a fear of the unknown, but I tell myself that 95% of the time, everything turns out ok. I'm sure it will for you too - it's been 11 years since you last moved so it's pretty much a bit of the unknown for you as well.

@InTheCludgie mine has all happened so fast, we put ours up for sale specifically for the house we’re moving to and got an acceptable offer within days, so we didn’t have the stress you’ve had, which feeling how I do now, I think I’d have thrown the towel in and given up if I’d been in your shoes.

Things have moved so quickly though and maybe not having had the time to really think about it, I feel I’m being swept along on a wave of legals, removals, enquiries and everything else that goes with selling and buying.

I know I’ll be fine once I’m in the next house, and I’ll love it. I even spoke with a couple of the neighbours who were in their garden on one of the viewings I had, and they were very nice, seemed welcoming and said how lovely an area it was to live.

I’ll have to keep talking to myself and telling myself not to be so daft!

I hope your move goes smoothly and yours and my nerves settle soon…..hopefully we’ll be posting on here in the next few months that we have no regrets 🤞🏻

All change is daunting, especially when you still love the house you're moving out of.

Bit it will be fine I'm sure.

Happy house move

Thanks, I hope yours goes well too! I was informed yesterday by the new broadband provider that they can't get us set up with Internet until 30th January 😬 we may well have anarchy in the house as I have a teenager! If that's all I have to worry about however, then I'm definitely winning.

The new house sounds lovely OP, I think it’s just wedding jitters.

Nothing better than a south facing garden.

@Mirabai yes, the south facing garden is what I’m especially looking forward to 🌞. The one we’re leaving is north facing and it makes the current house quite dark and rarely gets warm even in summer.

@InTheCludgie no doubt we’ll have issues with internet too, although no teenagers to worry about here for us!

@BG2015 Thank you, yes, I don’t like change at the best of times so why I decided to put myself through this, god only knows!

Never again.

Well in that case it’s a no brainer. You’re leaving a cold dark house for a warmer lighter one.

It's so common to get the collywobbles over major decisions though, isn't it? We've all been there, whether it's a new house, new job, new country, new relationship... it's probably just fear of the unknown where the old seems safe and familiar.

You'll be OK, you'll think of places to put things and all will be well. Sunny back gardens are fabulous!

Thank you to all, whose positive comments are helping reduce my angst and panic ☺️

Yes I'm looking at the positives - more family time and more reading for me!

Getting a bit stressed now - movers are arriving on Thursday to pack up, cat is going into the cattery tomorrow. On top of it all, I'm a final year student and sitting an exam tomorrow too 🙈 why did I agree to all this again??