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Helprequired5 · 13/12/2023 23:26

If you found out that someone had committed suicide in a house you were interested in buying, would it put you off?

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KievLoverTwo · 13/12/2023 23:28

No.

Dontjudgeme101 · 13/12/2023 23:42

Yes

ClematisBlue49 · 13/12/2023 23:45

No. Oddly, perhaps, it would make me feel inclined to take care of the house and create some positive memories there.

DappledThings · 13/12/2023 23:47

No

Pemba · 13/12/2023 23:49

Yes, honestly it would put me off, although it's illogical. I suppose most houses that are a bit older have had someone die in them. Suicide seems worse though.

Twiglets1 · 14/12/2023 04:37

No.

I found out a baby had died in a cot death in a house we were living in (with a baby) & that didn’t worry me either.

I’m not one bit superstitious.

TerfTalking · 14/12/2023 06:36

Yes, the daughter (my age) of my mother’s friend hung herself in the garage of her house. I shudder every time I walk past the house and garage. The house did sell though quite quickly afterwards, and I often wondered whether the buyer actually knew before they moved in. I dare say a neighbour may have mentioned it since.

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Helprequired5 · 14/12/2023 06:54

Even if we can get our heads around it (which I possibly could), I am not sure my teenage kids will - I think they are bound to find out (either through Google or local friends)

It's on for a great price, but this must be why...

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pilates · 14/12/2023 06:56

No

Twiglets1 · 14/12/2023 06:57

Helprequired5 · 14/12/2023 06:54

Even if we can get our heads around it (which I possibly could), I am not sure my teenage kids will - I think they are bound to find out (either through Google or local friends)

It's on for a great price, but this must be why...

Why not talk it over with your kids? If you explain the financial realities of this being a nice house you can afford they may turn out to be more sensible than you think about the other stuff.

LovedMyLastNameItHadToGo · 14/12/2023 07:00

So difficult OP as do we ever know everything that goes on in a home? It depends if you feel it would be something you think about often or if you think you could move on. There is something to be said for when something is just bricks and mortar but similarly think about how you feel about your house now and the attachment you build up.

Seaside3 · 14/12/2023 07:20

Yes. I would think about it a lot, and it's not something I want to think about all the time.

blackfluffycat · 14/12/2023 07:23

Yes

Atishooooo · 14/12/2023 07:45

Yes it would. Partly for the sadness of what had happened (having lost a relative to suicide, I think I would dwell on it a lot) - and partly for the fact I wouldn't want to live with all the neighbours wondering if I knew, or "accidentally" letting it slip and then going on to talk about it repeatedly.

It wouldn't put me off if a person had died in less tragic circumstances as I'm sure that's happened in many houses. Although I admit, I do think of it when I visit homes where I know someone has died in a particular room (eg my neighbour who passed away peacefully in her bed with family all around - when the new owners showed me all the work they had done, I couldn't help to think of old Margaret laying there breathing her last (obv didn't say anything!).

Usernamesarenoteasy · 14/12/2023 07:54

No, not at all

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 14/12/2023 07:55

No

Seaitoverthere · 14/12/2023 08:00

Yes

SuddenlyOld · 14/12/2023 08:09

Yes definitely but I believe that houses retain an atmosphere of people who lived there before. I've lived in 12 different houses, and if you include close family houses I can tell you I have experience of this 'atmosphere '. Might sound woo but I can tell as soon as I walk in the door if a house has a good or bad feel about it.

Not to mention my own personal feelings about being in a house where I know something unhappy occurred.

On a practical level I'd be worried about resale.

I live near the Skripal house and I often wonder why they didn't demolish and rebuild. They buried the cars but the house got a deep clean and a new roof 🤔

eandz13 · 14/12/2023 08:10

Seaside3 · 14/12/2023 07:20

Yes. I would think about it a lot, and it's not something I want to think about all the time.

Same here, I couldn't.

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Helprequired5 · 14/12/2023 08:13

SuddenlyOld · 14/12/2023 08:09

Yes definitely but I believe that houses retain an atmosphere of people who lived there before. I've lived in 12 different houses, and if you include close family houses I can tell you I have experience of this 'atmosphere '. Might sound woo but I can tell as soon as I walk in the door if a house has a good or bad feel about it.

Not to mention my own personal feelings about being in a house where I know something unhappy occurred.

On a practical level I'd be worried about resale.

I live near the Skripal house and I often wonder why they didn't demolish and rebuild. They buried the cars but the house got a deep clean and a new roof 🤔

I agree with the 'feeling' but ironically (when we didn't know what had happened), the feeling we got was that it was a happy house (clearly my radar is off!!) (we have seen houses in the past when I have very much felt that they were sad houses, but weirdly not this one)

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 14/12/2023 08:27

I think, having been suicidal myself and come through it, it feels wrong to me to stigmatise suicide by considering a house untouchable. I would want to give the ghost a big hug tbh rather than finding it creepy or depressing. Extreme sadness is part of life and it can coexist with happiness.

CremeBrunette · 14/12/2023 08:29

Helprequired5 · 14/12/2023 08:13

I agree with the 'feeling' but ironically (when we didn't know what had happened), the feeling we got was that it was a happy house (clearly my radar is off!!) (we have seen houses in the past when I have very much felt that they were sad houses, but weirdly not this one)

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Why is your radar off? It could have been a house filled with love and laughter but there were still other things going on in that person’s life that led them to believe suicide was the only option. It’s not some Amittyville horror house, it’s just a family home and sadly, someone there suffered an illness and they died.

It’s a good price, it had a good feeling. Talk to your teenagers, they might not be at all superstitious, in which case there is no problem.

piscofrisco · 14/12/2023 09:00

A (very old) skeleton was found bricked into the back of our fireplace. It seems
Likely it was a murder victim from the injuries it had sustained but it was at least 150 years. We didn't mind it-it was an old house and it sort of added to the atmosphere. We planted a tree in the garden for the person.

piscofrisco · 14/12/2023 09:09

150 years old

Pemba · 14/12/2023 15:37

@piscofrisco oh my goodness! Who discovered it? You, the builders? Did you have to call the police? Did it have to be studied to find out age, gender? Like in a crime drama.

Very sad, someone must have missed them and spent their whole life not knowing what happened to the missing person and the truth and justice will never be done.

How do you feel about it now, does it bother you?