The move is done. His remover let him down at the last minute (van broken into) and of course he calls me rather than looking for an alternative. I was at work and tired of constantly having to sort things out so I told him he needed to sort it himself and he did.
The two removal guys were ace, they were so kind and could see why he needed to move (I think they were shocked at where he had been living, and when they saw the new place with wide open windows and a view (his old place looked out onto a blank wall and he could only see a bit of sky above the wall.
I took him shopping for blinds and curtains and as a temporary measure put up the curtains with drawing pins. He's going to try to fit the pole and tracks himself (he's perfectly capable of but has become helpless).
He said his first night was bliss, no road noise, no passers by his bedroom window and waking up to see grass and trees and birds. Honestly it was like he had come out of prison.
We did a run to the tip today and I had to put my fur down and say I could not keep driving him all over the city to shop for curtains. Either he could wait for a delivery from eBay but it now or he could wait until next weekend or use the shop nearest the tip. He went sulky and I did my best to be assertive and hold my boundary. We got the curtains.
I have spent pretty much the last 48 hours with him or caring for my mum and am so tired. I'm staying in bed tomorrow until whenever I please, I'm going to enjoy my solitude, I need to have time to myself now. As I left earlier he started to mumble moaning about me leaving him on his "jack jones" and I reminded him that I was going home to my empty home too.
I'm now going to withdraw, his neighbours are all over 60, they have social events and he will be invited. He might finally get some so social life. I cannot do anymore short of moving in with him (he'd love that! ) Needless to say that is most certainly never going to happen!
I think it's all going to be ok. He's all ready for an attempt by the landlord to try to retain the deposit, but knows about the appeals process etc to ensure this doesn't happen.
I hope that this update is over and out. We'll see!
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