Sick with anxiety over move - ridiculous!!!

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I just received the email this morning to say we can exchange today, and complete on Monday.

It’s a great move, and the new house is lovely and spacious. DC both love the new house.

Slightly complicated as new house has an annexe for DM so it’s a change of lifestyle.

New house is in a new area about 15 miles away. It’s lovely but I don’t know it at all yet, but I will have a good friend in the next street!

It’s a doer upper - we’ve been doing building work on the new house for the last year. We have the shell of the extension but lots of building work to be done with equity from our sale.

This move has been in process for two years, from selling DM’s house, getting planning permission on new house, architects, building extension and annexe, and selling my house.

I should be delighted but I feel flat, and sick with anxiety.

I’ve been in this house for 16 years. I thought I was coping well but this morning everything has come flooding out. I’m hiding in the bathroom snivelling as I need to be upbeat for 13 yr old DC as they’re both finding it a tough challenge.

**(for context, me and both DC are autistic so don’t cope with change well).

I’m panicking about it being so final. Leaving this house so mean. It’s just ridiculous. This is such a positive move for us all but honestly I’m just dying inside.

Any tips on feeling less anxious??? I couldn’t stay here if I wanted to, it’s tiny and the mortgage is extortionate, and the DC share a bedroom! I just struggle to let go of things even if the next thing is better……I am very aware how ridiculous I am being….🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Moving house is stressful.
Big changes are stressful.

You are doing it for the right reasons. Try your best to get through the next few weeks. I a couple of months the new place will feel like home, and you will still have all the memories.

I really really feel for you. You are bound to feel anxious, just try to accept this as the norm and that your new home will feel familiar very soon.

Are you in your 40's/50's? I'm in the process of moving and I'm crippled with fear that I've not had before .

It's change at an age when you start to resist change .

It sounds like a good move but we are moving about the same distance after living in the same area all our lives so it's scary .

Hoping I'll love it !

I know how you feel. I was devastated to leave my favourite house.

But what it taught me (and subsequent other moves have taught me) is it was just bricks and mortar. You and your family are the home.

I hope you soon settle.

Very true and wise words!