Offer accepted. Having a freakout!

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Recently sold, found a lovely house on the opposite side of our town. Put an offer in, it got accepted today. Suddenly the reality is sinking in and I'm having a freak out! What have we done!
We will have to change our daughter's school. The nearest one is full so walk to the next one is not too bad, a mile but a few bigger roads to cross. I will never let her walk alone.
I won't be able to meet my friends at the local baby group anymore as I would get there very late.
My second child will have to go to a different preschool. I love the house we're buying but I feel so settled and happy where we are, I'm wondering whether we should just stay in our current area instead. Please talk sense to me. I also barely slept, which never helps.

I'm the one who's been pushing the whole house move

So why was that? I'm missing the bit about why you've needed to move so much that you've sold up already.

@Pinkdelight3 we both want / need to move for extra space as not enough bedrooms, but I've been doing all the leg work, arranging viewings etc. Just seems like I am more involved. DH want to move too.
A lot of agencies wouldn't let us view without having sold our own house.

Okay so you do need to move, it's not just that you wanted to, you don't have enough rooms, so unless you get a house in the exact area you're already in, then you'll have to come to terms with the things that are freaking you out as they'll be the case with any other house, not just this particular one. Is that correct? Just trying to understand if the issue is dealing with your emotions or if it's tangible concerns about the house you've offered on not being right?

@Pinkdelight3 a bit of both I suppose.
I think DD would survive school change, but there were several other bits I didn't like the more I thought about them so we've pulled out
I'd probably feel better about the area change if the house was perfect. It clearly wasn't. It just took me a while to realise. I hope the sellers won't hate us, I apologised a lot on the phone to the EA :(

That isn't a long time to be looking at houses. You don't sound at all sure. Doesn't matter that you offer has been accepted. My ex tried pushing me to buy a house that I didn't like. They accepted the offer and I rang and pulled out. The estate agents were annoyed of course because they wouldn't be getting their commission but tough. Its one of the biggest and life changing decisions you make in life so if you're not sure then pull out now before any paperwork etc is started/money for surveys is paid out. Your dhnis making a big fuss about pulling out. Happens all the time.

Don't be in a rush to move, choose wisely. There's too many uncertainties with this one. Your ideal house could be up for sale any day. Best to hold on until it does rather than move to somewhere less than ideal. Esp as your dd loves her school, for me that would have a big influence on my decision. People saying kids are resilient, true but she might not like her next school. Don't fix whats not broken.

I agree.

You seem to have a few reservations about the house and when I was in the same position once, I tried to talk myself out of it and ended up pulling out a lot further down the line which was worse than if I had pulled out early.

Maybe you need to wait a bit longer until a house you actually love comes onto the market. How long that will take is like a piece of string. But when you see one you love, you have no reservations. Every potential problem can be overcome because you know you just have to do everything you can to secure it.

Thank you @Twiglets1 . I have calmed down now and had a nap (!) and I am sure it was a right decision to pull out.

I think we got swayed by lovely decor and a new bathroom and kitchen.
The owners decided to put their washing machine in a garage accessed from outside, so it was bothering me a lot. I wouldn't want to rip out lovely new bathroom / kitchen to put it back in the house, and I need it back in the house with two small children. I do at least 2 lots of laundry a day. Potty training youngest soon as well 😮!
There wasn't really any more space to put it in anywhere else.

In fact I calculated that the whole house (detached) was only 15m2 bigger than our current 3 bed semi. It is twice the price! 'Naice' area though, so I guess there's that- but we are not anywhere awful either.

Hope you get a better nite’s sleep tonight. It’s so so hard buying and selling. We pulled out of a holiday property we were buying in Spain after 2 days as in the cold light of the day it just didn’t feel right. We were also worried about maintenance of things like air conditioning etc. it was most definitely the right decision. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s so easy to be swayed by a beautifully presented property with new kitchen and bathroom.

A bit off-topic, but could you cycle to the gym? Sometimes, if not every time? Or drive part way and cycle the rest if it has sections that are more comfortable to cycle than others?
(20 mins drive might be doable if it's on minor low-speed roads and just 10-15 miles away or so, but I do realise that if it is motorway driving and it's 20 miles away, not so much!)

Aw, bless you for thinking of me! 💐I'm dyspraxic though and no-one wants me on the roads on a bike! I'm wobbly enough on an exercise bike.😂I will just have to find walks around my new area and make sure I get out and do them and remind myself that I have to continue what I started and if that means driving to the gym, then so be it! The trade off is my mental health will be a 100% better in the new place, so I'm thinking that may well help me to keep up with the physical side!