Abuser said he will leave if I can find him a home with no deposit... Help.

[Bonkaz]

Does anyone know if there are any schemes or anything I can use to find my ex partner a rental property (UK) with no deposit? We still live together but are struggling to save for him to leave. It's got to the point where things get physical from his side at least once a week and I need to sort this sooner rather than later. Our kids are my priority and I feel like im limited on options.

Gosh - can you call the police? If he is hitting you, that's a police matter isn't it.

Sorry to sound flippant but - a police station cell is rent-free.

Call the police, please. And/or Women's Aid for advice.
This man is NOT your responsibility.

Hi lovely. Yes please call the police. The property thread is probably not the best place for your post.

The only scheme I’m aware of here is the police. You ring them, report his criminal behaviour towards you and your children, and they take him away. He can live rent free in a cell.

Get him arrested for being an abusive cunt and prevented from returning. That'll solve the blackmail.

Because he won't leave, even if you bought him a million pound apartment and handed him the keys to a Ferrari. He'll still be an abusive cunt abusing you.

No one will give him somewhere to live without a deposit.

At the same time you should never have to put up with physical violence in your own home. You do need to talk to the police and you don't have to do it at the time he hits you, if that makes you even more unsafe. You can wait until he's out of the house and call them or you can call in to the police station and asked to speak to the domestic violence officers.

You are not his mother, it's not your job to find him a place to go.
Report him to the police for domestic violence and get a no contact order against him.

Police. Then get an occupation order.

If the kids are your priority - ring Women's Aid and talk it through with them, see what they suggest.
You are risking having your children removed if you allow them to stay in a household where violence and or abuse is occurring. It doesn't matter if they never see it.

Do you own your home or rent? If you own, is the property/mortgage in your name or joint names? If it is just in your name, you can just tell him to leave and change the locks. The police will remove him if he refuses to go. The same applies if you rent. If he isn't on the tenancy, you can just tell him to leave. If you jointly own the home or have a joint tenancy, it will be harder.

Can you and the DC leave? Women's Aid can help you to find a shelter.

Some councils do have schemes where they will act as a guarantor/pay the deposit to a private landlord to prevent homelessness.

Some letting agents do offer properties with no deposit where you pay for an insurance policy instead,

Your ex could also get a room in a houseshare or as a lodger with a small deposit.

Call the police and call Women's Aid, get yourself and those precious little ones too safety!!

I've been there OP! Fled into refuge 10 years ago with a 2 and 8 year old. I had a suitcase and £3.24 to my name. It wasn't glamorous and I lost my pets, left a home I loved and most of my beautiful belongings. But, we were free, rebuilt our lives and life soon started to be on the up and we never ever looked back.

He is not your responsibility!

Good luck!! ❤️❤️

There are some small local letting agents who will allow a tenancy agreement without a deposit but will require a guarantor. If you're East Midlands I can recommend one - I used them for 10 years.

That aside, you don't really need to be sorting him out. Do as everyone else says and focus on police or women's aid for yourself first.

Police, Women's Aid, Non Molestation Order. You are not responsible for your ex's re-housing. You and your children deserve better and to live in safety.
https://www.gov.uk/injunction-domestic-violence/eligibility-non-molestation