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Wobble on eve of exchange

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Spittlebemynewname · 06/09/2023 19:05

We are selling our house because of flooding risk that has caused me huge anxiety over the last two years. It only became known to us when near neighbours were flooded. We have been round and round and round the topic since then and eventually decided that for (my!) peace of mind we should go. We have managed to get a good price, which I should be happy about. We couldn't find anything to buy after looking and looking and looking so decided to go into rental until we find a new place - next year hopefully. I have had (another) huge wobble today triggered by exchange which is about to happen. I feel so so so sad to be leaving this house that I have loved so much. I can't stop crying. Hoping for some words of wisdom or comfort.

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Greenberg2 · 06/09/2023 19:13

I would say it's your anxiety making you feel like this. Or at least how you're interpreting the normal feelings of loss at leaving behind a place you've been happy. Your brain is saying it shouldn't feel like that and making you feel like you are going to regret the move. But you will be taking away the reasonable fear that you have of flooding. There will be new memories you can make in the new house and it is bound to have other advantages that you cannot see at the moment because of your anxiety.

Make a list of all the positive things that you can think of about the new house.

ClematisBlue49 · 06/09/2023 19:25

I think it's possible to love a house or location, while at the same time something about it makes you anxious to the point that moving is the rational thing to do. You've already realised this, or you wouldn't have got this far.

Understandably you are anxious about the move now, and going into rented accommodation, and this is overshadowing the concern over the flooding risk, but the new anxiety will be short-lived in all likelihood. And it sounds like a sensible move, financially.

KievLoverTwo · 06/09/2023 19:43

Every time it rains hard for quite some years to come, you will feel a sense of relief.

You may also be able to afford a nicer house far higher above a river with less flood risk in the future.

Sending hugs xxx

Twiglets1 · 06/09/2023 20:27

You did the right thing getting rid of that liability. It was only a matter of time before you had a flood

CrashyTime · 06/09/2023 20:34

Twiglets1 · 06/09/2023 20:27

You did the right thing getting rid of that liability. It was only a matter of time before you had a flood

Can`t be that much of a liability if someone is buying it at a "good price", serious flood threat should be basically unsellable IMO.

Kentlane · 06/09/2023 22:28

Anxiety can be so hard. Be kind to yourself and remember why you want to move. Although you've enjoyed this house the thought of a flood hanging over you everytime the weather gets bad would be so exhausting. You're doing the right thing for your mental health. You'll find the right house which will bring you calmness.

Twiglets1 · 07/09/2023 10:03

Hope you feel a bit better today @Spittlebemynewname

It probably feels harder because you’re going into a rental and the future feels uncertain. But you will be in a very strong position to buy a great house next year and it really sounds like you are doing the right thing for long term peace of mind & happiness. Change is always hard though.

RidingMyBike · 07/09/2023 10:34

It's normal to feel really anxious in this situation. We relocated two years ago. I knew in my head that our old house was now too small and didn't work for our current lifestyles. And the location wasn't great. Rationally moving was what we had to do, and all the time at home during lockdowns only emphasised that. We went into rented, then bought, doing a big renovation in the process. It was horrendously stressful and I missed our old house so much.

BUT now we're settled. We have a much bigger house that works well for us in a great location. I remember our old home with fondness as it was our first family home but the actual missing it has gone.

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Spittlebemynewname · 07/09/2023 13:00

We’ve just exchanged. Thanks so much for the lovely messages, not least the check in this morning from @Twiglets1, which was so appreciated. Such wisdom and kindness in this community. I have made a snapshot of the responses to come back to when I need a reminder.

Onwards and upwards! (Literally!)

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ClematisBlue49 · 07/09/2023 14:37

Well done @Spittlebemynewname , thanks for updating - that's great news. Best of luck with the move and what comes next for you and your family.

KievLoverTwo · 07/09/2023 14:48

Spittlebemynewname · 07/09/2023 13:00

Onwards and upwards! (Literally!)

Edited

This is the sort of thing my friend is having to deal with in her area of Greece today. It's absolutely decimating the roads and infrastructure and everyone there is terrified.

You did good for your family, OP.

https://ichef.bbci.co.uk/news/976/cpsprodpb/1023F/production/_131011166_greecehouse.jpg.webp

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Spittlebemynewname · 07/09/2023 15:56

KievLoverTwo · 07/09/2023 14:48

This is the sort of thing my friend is having to deal with in her area of Greece today. It's absolutely decimating the roads and infrastructure and everyone there is terrified.

You did good for your family, OP.

https://ichef.bbci.co.uk/news/976/cpsprodpb/1023F/production/_131011166_greecehouse.jpg.webp

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Oh your poor friend, @KievLoverTwo, how awful. I wish her and her community the strength to get through this.

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Twiglets1 · 07/09/2023 15:56

Thanks for the update @Spittlebemynewname and I wish you all the best going forward 😀

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