Myself and my partner are thinking of making the move from London to Hove. We have a 4 month old baby and I feel in my gut it’s time for a fresh start. Aside from the anxiety of moving away from London where I’ve spent my whole life, and family and friends, I’m in a tricky situation with our house.
Our house has been my family home for 20 years, I lived here with my parents for 12 years until they split up, my dad stayed here though until he died in 2018 which is when me and my partner moved back in. We’ve been here for 5 years, and have made some amazing memories but as time goes on I’ve been feeling like my grief for my dad is trapping me here.
It’s an absolutely incredible house but doesn’t serve our needs as a changing family now but I’m so terrified of walking about from it and regretting it, even though every part of me is saying to go! The sentimentality is what’s holding me back, and almost feeling like I’m leaving my dad behind. I do think this has highlighted some unresolved grief I didn’t know I had.
I want a fresh start, to live somewhere that feels like our family home rather than my childhood home, to go and do something that scares me because life is too short etc etc
Then obviously on top of this I’m worried about moving to a completely new city.
I’m sort of at my wits end with all the worrying which is why I’m posting here to see if anyone has been in a similar situation.