I need a telling off :(

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I really need a reality check.

I hate our house. DH and I bought it last year in the peak in a panic when everything was rising quickly. We only fixed for two years. The house is small. It needs loads of repairs. The garden is small. There’s no garage or utility room and only one toilet.

But I know friends of friends who are preparing to sell because they can’t afford their homes or worried about feeding themselves and their children, I have friends who are renting because they can’t afford to buy and friends who are being forced to leave because landlords are increasing the rent.

I know that we are lucky in that we can comfortably afford the mortgage payment, even at the new rates and after repairs. And my complaints are somewhat ridiculous. But I’m still sad that we bought this house and I wish we’d bought something else. I’m so angry that we bought it and angry at myself for feeling like this when I know so many other people are suffering with cost of living.

The fact other people have other/worse problems is by-the-by. You can't change how you feel.

Give yourself a break, it's hard accepting mistakes, in time you'll feel less raw I would think.

That is good advice @calmcoco i would also say from personal experience I would really focus on making the appearance nice and to your taste - we painted walls, got new carpets, new pics, new front door and every time I walk in now I’m super happy. Give it a few yrs and then move on

I felt this way last year.... so we moved house. Life is too short. Plenty of other houses out there. Find something you love.

Other people’s situations don’t invalidate your feelings.
Either do what you can to help you like your home a little bit more, or move, you might find that if it’s small it’ll be prefect for someone trying to downsize.
If it makes you feel any better I also hate my house & we’re trying to move, despite everyone telling us how ‘lovely’ our house is

Can you port your mortgage?
I'm not an expert but I think you keep same interest rate if you do so?
If you can, and you really hate your home, might prices in your area be dropping amd you could find a better one?
We bought last year and our money would go further now if we didn't have to pay new interest rates.
Really I agree life is too short to live in a house you don't like unless you absolutely have to.

I know how you feel. I bought a flat at peak frenzy in 2007 and then really didn’t like it. To run further salt in the wound I then fixed at a relatively high rate just before interest rates really plunged and the flat sunk in value. After a couple of years DH and I moved in together so I moved out of there and still kept onto it. The area around the flat is now a lot more desirable. Some people love the flat but I am still not fond of it for some reason! If it’s possible for you to plan to move I would do that. If not then you’ll have to try to find some way to fall in love with it.

I moved from my old much beloved house and village when I moved in with then DP, now Dh. Had to move to be nearer his children but still within range of my girls schools etc. So we had to really compromise on location as there was a very specific geographical corridor of places we could live and then limited houses for sale therein.

Dh's ex wife waited until we had completed pretty much, and then announced she was moving the kids an hour and a half away in a direction that was helpful for neither my or dh's kids. Ideal.
We still had to move as the process was so far along (dh had sold his house, I'd sold mine) and my old house would in fairness have been a squeeze when all the kids are with us, (75% of the time).

On paper the new house is better. Bigger, huge garden, newly decorated and more practical. Everyone that comes round says how lovely it is, bar possibly location (through even that isn't that bad, it's just the town it's near isn't that pretty).
I absolutely loathe it and I miss my old
House and village all the time.

I've done lots of the work on the house myself and it looks great-and I thought that would make me feelMore at home (but it felt Like a chore, rather than the Labour of love it was at my old house). Even so I could walk out of it and never go back and I wouldn't miss it that much.

We are stuck here for two years at least (kids schools etc) and maybe more depending on the housing market... and I am trying to make the best of it as no choice -and objectively it's lovely, but I'm just not feeling it.

I haven't said this to anyone in RL, as it sounds so entitled and whingey when we are really lucky to have a house at all. But it doesn't half get me down sometimes.

Thanks everyone.

we can’t move right now. We’re caring for a relative atm. DH also says it too much in another set of fees and stress of house hunting when we haven’t been in the house for a full year yet (completed July, moved in November). He thinks the house would be harder to sell and we should stay a bit longer so we have a better idea of what we want/ hate when looking for the next one and aren’t in the same situation when we buy the next one. We only lived in rental flats before this.

You live and learn. Your property has a lot going for it such as you have a garden and you can afford the repayments. But you don’t love it and I get that there will be regrets over choosing it.
Use the knowledge you are gaining to make sure that they next house you buy has more of the things you are missing with this property. Remember it’s only your first property purchase and these normally have lots of compromises.