I am about to start a party wall process with my upstairs neighbour. I have discussed with her my plans to build a side-return extension in my garden and even shared the engineering drawings to help her understand my project. However, she has raised concerns about the roof lights that I am planning to put on top of my extension, and asked how she would be able to extend her flat on top of my planned extension!!
I would like to inform her that building on top of my future extension would be considered an encroachment of my property and a violation of my boundaries. As the freeholder of the ground floor, I have the right to determine how my property is used and developed, and her proposed extension on top of my future extension would not be allowed. Additionally, the foundation of my future extension would only support one story, so building on top of it would not be feasible.
I want to make sure I communicate in a polite and respectful manner when informing her that I won't be able to allow her to build on top of my future extension. I am concerned that if I'm too forceful, she might become difficult during the party wall process and make it harder for me to start my project. As the freeholder of the first flat, she still has to approve my extension as I have to modify a wall that we both own.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Your help would be appreciated.