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Getting over losing "dream" property.

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DancingQueen2019 · 18/04/2023 16:12

GAHH!!

beaten by a first time buyer. now we have a buyer, and no where to move to! im not confident of finding anywhere, especially not to beat our dream property that we lost out on.

any motivating stories. :)

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postwarbulge · 19/04/2023 10:59

I lived in the same property I bought with my late husband in 1974 until four years after he died. Buying our first house was such a frustrating experience it acted as effective aversion therapy to contemplating doing it again!

Moving to a retirement flat was easier. As the agent said, "No upward chain to worry about."

Pashy · 19/04/2023 10:59

I’m not into “woo” or spirituality or anything, but I often think these things have a way of working themselves out.

After two years of house-hunting, we found our dream house. Literally ticked every box and we knew we’d have to put some money into it, but would have been able to. All went well- survey was good, no issues with searches etc.

Day before exchange, buyers gazumped us in favour of a cash buyer who approached them directly. We were already down the cost of surveys, solicitors etc. I was so upset and angry, I cried.

Licked wounds for a few months and decided to take a break from property-hunting. Was fed up of the whole thing and felt we’d been made fools of, so confidence was shot. Let mortgage approval in principle expire.

Then I saw our house accidentally when browsing through a newspaper that had a property section. I was determined not to get attached but I could literally picture my family sitting in the kitchen when I looked at the photos.

Went to see it and realised it had so, so much more going for it than house 1- we’d have had to put about £135k into house 1 to get it up to the same standard.

We had the most amazing mortgage advisor in our bank and she was able to re-do our approval in principle in a matter of days as we’d gone outside the six month window.

We put in an offer and kept getting outbid by a cash buyer. Dropped out when it got to £40k over asking- more because I didn’t want a repeat of what happened with the first house rather than affordability. When we withdrew, I actually told my husband that we’d hear back from the agency.

Two months later, the phone rings and it’s the agent saying that the cash buyer turned out to not be proceedable and the house was ours at our last big if we wanted it.

Said yes on the spot, moved in two years ago, and am completely in love with it. Feel like pinching myself sometimes because I can’t believe it’s mine.

So this house may not be the one for you, but there’ll be another.

spinspinspinthewheel · 19/04/2023 11:03

All might not be lost. I lost my dream house, and had eventually had offer on another accepted. Although it was a compromise house.

but after a couple of months while dealing with a problem on the survey, dream house came back on the market.

I made an offer immediately, accepted, pulled out of compromise house and am sitting in dream house right now.

IwanttoworkforThomasNightingale · 19/04/2023 11:03

DancingQueen2019 · 19/04/2023 08:54

Thank you all for your words of reassurance!

Apparently our buyers "love our property and are in rented and happy to wait. Should they pull out, is it just a case of letting people view it and securing another buyer?

Tip: keep your buyers updated on your search so they know you’re viewing things and trying to get something sorted. Your estate agents should be happy to pass on updates.

Londongent · 19/04/2023 11:52

Found a house we fell in love with, even though the survey threw up a lot of issues we still wanted the house. Waited around 8 months for the vendor to find their house. We were all ready to exchange, could have happened any day.

Kept phoning EA to ask can we exchange today. It never happened, vendor eventually pulled out for no reason. Worse, for the sellers of the house my vendor was going to buy. They were moving to Holland, and had an offer on a house accepted which meant they were legally obliged to proceed with the purchase. We also lost our buyer because of the delay.

Anyway 6 months later found a better house for the same price and sold our property for more than we had previously agreed.

Things will work out in the end, because ultimately you won't buy a house that you don't want. You will also see that your dream property had other issues.

Chin up and best of luck.

Fedupofdiets · 27/04/2023 10:42

Just to update I had a call from the EA of my dream house on Tuesday to say the buyers had pulled out and did I still want to offer. I went in at 7k under asking and it was accepted!!! My Dad died last week and I would like to think it was a present from him as it has a spare room for Mum to come and stay. now to hope for a smooth sale and purchase 🙏So the message is don't give up hope x

HollyFT · 27/04/2023 10:46

Happened to us, took a few months to get over it. But a better one came up round the corner. I hated it at first and refused to view it. But when I did, fell in love.

I do believe things like this (not everything in life) happen for a reason and it's some weird force showing you the way to something better. Hang in there!

ddisaster · 27/04/2023 11:10

We had a nightmare trying to get our dream house. Agreed our house for sale. Made offer, house agreed to another buyers. That offer fell through, ours was accepted. Our sale fell through, sellers agreed to give us time to resell (thankfully this happened b quickly). Then covid hit and everything ground to a halt. In the meantime issues were flagged re building control at ours - had to get structural experts out at height of pandemic (£500 basically to say yeah it's fine). EVENTUALLY got our dream home after 10 months of ups and downs. Stay strong 💪

DancingQueen2019 · 27/04/2023 11:14

Dont worry guys, i am hanging on and feeling much more positive . : ) Thank you for all the positive stories!

Unfortunately our buyers decided they didnt want to wait for us to find somewhere - fair enough. Any tips on keeping the house viewing ready? Or just a case of cleaning and tidying furiously every day!

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IwanttoworkforThomasNightingale · 27/04/2023 11:32

Fedupofdiets · 27/04/2023 10:42

Just to update I had a call from the EA of my dream house on Tuesday to say the buyers had pulled out and did I still want to offer. I went in at 7k under asking and it was accepted!!! My Dad died last week and I would like to think it was a present from him as it has a spare room for Mum to come and stay. now to hope for a smooth sale and purchase 🙏So the message is don't give up hope x

What lovely news!

DancingQueen2019 · 23/05/2023 11:36

Just to come back and update this thread with a story of positivity.

Well, we put our house back on rightmove when our buyers pulled out, and had a week of viewings. 2 buyers ended up putting in offers (including the original ones who pulled out!) So buyer was secured.

We were plodding along just waiting for a new property to come when our lovely lovely estate agent (I know, that is rare!) gave us the heads up of a new property coming to market which was smack band in the middle of the 2 roads (very specific) which was at the top of my list where we wanted to buy. We were of course looking further afield as obviously nothing was coming up on these roads or was rare..... but anyway long story short we viewed the property, loved it, put an offer in and got it! This property is better than our "dream" property in that the garden isnt as big (bummer) BUT there is a double driveway, bigger house/rooms, garage and much much better location. So now we are embarking onto the legals. I won't relax until I have keys in my hand - but just to let everyone know that

although it may seem like your "dream" property is gone - something different (better most of the time!) WILL come along. xxx

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Londongent · 23/05/2023 13:25

Great update. It's funny how things like this often work out

Dinkler · 23/05/2023 13:47

That's great to hear @DancingQueen2019 It's such a stressful process so it's heartwarming to read that it works out for people in the end. In the middle of it myself, have lost out 3 times now. Fed up.

StephanieCurry · 16/01/2026 22:31

Hi curious to hear what happened? Were going through a very similar heartbreak:(

edit: oop didn’t see the second page..so glad to hear it all worked out!! Our buyer is very eager and is almost pressuring us to move out. Which is stressing me out even more

Lamplight101 · 16/01/2026 23:07

This has happened to me on two occasions over the years. Was absolutely gutted and certain we would never find anything as good. On both occasions we ended up with better, as will you.

DancingQueen2019 · 16/01/2026 23:58

Just been notified of replies on this thread, we completed on the house in my last update in Dec 2023. Dh and I were just talking at dinner yesterday how glad we didn't end up in the first house and how much we liked the second house more. Not to be a cliche but if anyone finds themselves in this position , then what is meant to be will be (I believe!)

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