Missed a house of my dream

[Missedourhouse]

We have just missed a house of my dream. I fell totally in love with it. But smb put an offer faster than us.
Can you say smth reassuring? Things haven't been selling here and I don't know why we felt we had time and didn't act that quickly. It wasn't even put online yet. I feel so miserable. I'm convinced I will never find anything better as it ticked a huuuuuuge list of our “must haves”. I feel devastated. Gutted.
Have you been in a similar situation? Does it get better? I feel it won't

[Movinghouseatlast]

Oh yes, it does get better!

I lost the house of my dreams 2 days before completion. We lost over £7k. We had packed up our house. It really was hell on earth. It was also the absolute best thing that EVER happened to us.

We found a much better house, the dream house has turned out to be an absolute nightmare for the people who bought it.

You will find another house!

[sageandrosemary]

I don't have many words of wisdom but here in solidarity...

Missed out on our dream home in January and still think about it daily 😔

[Missedourhouse]

@sageandrosemary oh dear I will be sobbing tonight then. And I will be walking past it daily and probably see the new owner move in 😭

[Movinghouseatlast]

@Missedourhouse

@sageandrosemary oh dear I will be sobbing tonight then. And I will be walking past it daily and probably see the new owner move in 😭

Mine is next door ( 1/4 of a mile away) and I just feel relieved when I see it!

[PointyMcguire]

2 things…

Firstly there’s every chance the offer someone else put may fall through, if it’s meant to be it will be.

Secondly, I’ve been in your shoes, except we had made an offer, had it accepted by the vendor but as it was a forced sale due to divorce we also had to have the ex-husband agree to our offer and he was beyond obstructive. I was convinced it was our dream home and nothing else could ever compare, so much so we nearly went beyond the top end of our budget to secure it. As heartbreaking as it was we walked, a week later a much more suitable house came up at significantly lower than our top end budget. We’ve lived here almost 3 years now. Now with the wonderful power of hindsight we look back and cringe at the idea that we could have stretched ourselves way beyond our means, especially given what’s occurred during the last few years! At the time I really couldn’t imagine finding a better house, be actually our dream home was right around the corner so please don’t lose hope.

[FanSpamTastic]

Put in a higher offer then you may still get it?

[Anotheradventureforme]

I think you have to be a bit fatalistic here. Wasn't meant to be - and maybe it has rising damp, or the boiler's about to fail, or it's haunted - or maybe there is absolutely, definitely a nicer house coming up for you.

Happened to me 🙂

[Noseylittlemoo]

When we moved the first house we viewed we absolutely fell in love with. But for various reasons we didn't get it, and I was heartbroken.
Nothing we saw was comparible but once it was sold I had to try and forget about it. The house we ended up with is on a completely different area which we have grown to love. It has a great community around the pubs and local shops which the other area didn't have.
Since we have moved - almost 2 years ago I don't think about the dream house much . I still love it , but on a daily basis I feel very happy and settled in the house we eventually bought.

[Missedourhouse]

@FanSpamTastic my husband won't agree for various reasons but mainly because of the current market. He is also not as romantic as I'm. Which makes me also angry with him... Rrr doesn't help

[insomniac1]

I am going through the same thing! But found out that it's a friend who managed to get their offer accepted so I'll have go to the housewarming 😩🙈 and try not to act gutted that it's not my house!

[ivfbabymomma1]

@Movinghouseatlast

Oh yes, it does get better!

I lost the house of my dreams 2 days before completion. We lost over £7k. We had packed up our house. It really was hell on earth. It was also the absolute best thing that EVER happened to us.

We found a much better house, the dream house has turned out to be an absolute nightmare for the people who bought it.

You will find another house!

This is my worst nightmare!!! Why did you loose it? I'm not long off exchanging and my nerves are shot 😭

[Missedourhouse]

@insomniac1 gosh I'm not sure I would be able to. Did you know you were both going after the same house?

[insomniac1]

No neither of us knew! Only found out last week when I met her for lunch!

[ign0re]

Going through exactly the same right now. Not over yet but may as well be and seems ridiculous but I don’t know the last time I was this devastated 😂😭

[BarrelOfOtters]

We lost out on what I thought was our dream house. In reality we’d had a really frustrating time looking and it was the one that ticked a lot of boxes but had issues. Not least a non cooperative seller.

where we’ve ended up is better in so many ways, also on a much quieter road. There’s only one house I still pass with a bit of a pang, it’s so pretty looking 9n the outside. But it had a terrible kitchen that would have been hard to fix and trouble with the chimney stack that took new owners months to get fixed.

[PleaseJustText]

We lost out on ours in January. Our offer was accepted then a few weeks later the seller realised he'd have a big redemption fee to pay on his mortgage. We've found another house though my husband still mourns the first one.

[Longwhiskers]

Yes. We lost out on a dream house last August, then it came back on the market last month but only to the previous bidders - as a result of our nagging the agent why the sale hadn’t progressed. Vendor dumped the buyer (should’ve been a quick sale…seven months on) and we lost out again as they went to previous bidders in order of financial bids made back in August. So gutted, we felt depressed all week last week. Adding to the stress is that our rental lease is coming to an end soon and we had high hopes of progressing quickly with that house.

[SupermarketMum]

We had that happen. Thought we’d never find something better. Then months later a house came up on a street we didn’t even know existed, much better for us with a much better garden.

[Missedourhouse]

We are in a very hilly area and there are not many nice houses around. They are either grade 2 listed, or have no garden or have a shaded garden, or no driveway/no garage, loads of steps to the door, etc. So many many "but". This house Bea sun top of the hill so in a perfect flat area with the view... I'm heartbroken
Day 2 and I'm even more miserable and even grumpier with my husband. It didn't seem to have any effect on him. 🙄 makes me rrrrrrr

[ign0re]

I feel you.
my partner just suggested we wait until Monday before trying another offer but I want to do it today. I can’t stew on this all weekend.
even though I know the answer will be no.
Its just utterly miserable. I am so annoyed at myself for getting so carried away with imagining us living there etc.

[Missedourhouse]

@ign0re did you make an offer or waiting till tomorrow?

[Awrite]

I think lots of us have been there. We lost out on an amazing house because ours hadn't sold. We then sold and had to rent for 6 months. I then learned that beloved house had sold for about £40k under the asking price. Was gutted all over again.

I the end we bought a cracking house and have been very happy here. First house was beautiful but this one has the better view. View calms me daily.

[ign0re]

@awrite this is what I’m hoping will be the case for us… something better on the horizon 🙏 I guess you appreciate it even more after missing out on the first!

@Missedourhouse came to my senses and agreed to wait until tomorrow. There is an outside chance they’ll have thought about our offer over the weekend I suppose. I’ve got the next offer ready to go which I’m pleased with and think if this one is rejected as I imagine it will be, I’ll feel slightly happier at walking away as anything above that will really financially cripple us!

[ign0re]

Has your husband said anymore on it? I thought my partner wasn’t bothered but a few days later he admitted he was devastated too but just too gutted to talk about it but had also been thinking about it non stop!

[derelicte]

I lost out on my dream home about two years ago with a final closed bid. It was the absolute PERFECT home for us as a family, and I was prepared to pay way over the valuation (which is normal anyway where I live). DH and I were on the same page with the level of our offer, and our mother-fucker of a solicitor nay-sayed it, and strongly advised us to go quite a bit lower. DH was persuaded by her, and although I wasn't at all convinced I didn't feel it was fair to pressure DH into a "preposterously" high offer.

Needless to say we didn't get it. The winning offer was just under what we'd originally wanted to offer. Prices have soared since then, and it's worth even more than that. I felt utterly sick with rage and disappointment for many months. The property was a total rarity, and nothing remotely as good as it has come up since then.

However, my guttedness has eased with time. It still makes me wince inside when I think about it, and I get pissed off when people say "it wasn't meant to be". It's still the loveliest place I've seen, and I'd be in there like a shot if it came up again.

We ended up buying another place which is good enough for now. It's lacking a lot of what we wanted, but it's got a couple of things that are arguably better than the dream home.

Basically I think I just ran out of bitterness steam! 🤣 Life goes on. It's a bit like grief, in that it's still a really shit experience, but it becomes a smaller part of your life.

And of course you could be one of the majority percentage who go on to find somewhere even better!