Help me feel better about this move?

[Lettylee83]

I put in an offer today - and it was accepted - after a long and arduous property search!

The property is in a nice area that I don’t love, but I know will be good for my kids.

DH and kids and I live in a very urban area, and the grime is getting a bit much. But I LOVE it. After a few small incidents (drug stuff outside our front door, some minor violence, and other not-wholesome things), and not being overly fond of DC’s school, we decided we needed to move somewhere a little more suburban. With help from DH’s mother (which makes me feel completely shit, to be honest), we’ve put in an offer in a nice enough place in a really nice suburban area with fantastic schools.

I feel selfishly depressed. It’s only 30 mins away from the urban place I like and other areas that I also like. I know it was the right choice. But the suburbs has never been “me”. (I know it’s not all about me anymore!)

Please help me feel better about it! We’ll stay until our kids finish school and then straight back into as urban as I like! But it’s an upmarket “naice” place, and i grew up working class, not posh, don’t feel rich, worried I won’t feel like I belong, worried I’ll feel depressed about being somewhere that isn’t urban.

I need to get over it as - really - it’s 30 mins max from where we are now.

Please help me feel better about it! And celebrate! I know we’re very lucky!

I find it helps to treat new things as a quest or an adventure, as if I were a character in a fantasy novel!
This is your next adventure, and who knows you might love it - and if you don't - well the other area won't have disappeared. :-)

I do empathise, finances mean I have to change areas and it can be difficult - but look for the positive and remember that life is going on now; there isn't time to waste.

Good luck and make your new house quirky and gorgeous.

Ha I love that! Being a character in a story is such a great way to think about it!

And so is the ability to make the place look as quirky as it can!

I’m sure you will love it. It’s a new adventure. Embrace it.

Thank you - I want to think of it that way! I had a dream last night that I moved into an old warehouse instead, and woke up thinking “I wonder if I could…” but this area and this place is much better for my kids!