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Teen / tween DC not happy about moving house

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Wigeon · 14/11/2022 08:41

DD (14) and DD (11) are struggling with the fact we’ve moving house soon. The younger one has only ever lived in our current house, and we moved here when the older one was a toddler, so she can’t remember anywhere else. We’re upsizing from our 2.5 bed with one loo and one shower to a 4 bed with two showers and three loos, and generally more space. It’s in the same town, only less than a 10 min drive from where we currently live, so they aren’t changing school, and we’ll still be close to their friends, albeit very slightly further from some of them.

Neither of them want to move, the 11 year old says that she can’t bear the thought of never coming back to our (current) house, that where we currently live is home. We went round to the new house last night so they could get a bit more used to it, but it just set the older one off too - she hates the decor of her new room and some of the other rooms (it’s fine, just not her taste), she doesn’t think it feels like home and both of them were in tears when we got back to our current house!

Obviously we’ve tried to reassure them, said that home is where your family is, not four walls, that it will feel more like our home once the current owners’ furniture is gone and all stuff is there, talked about some of the positives (to them) of the new house (more room for friends to come on sleepovers! People not arguing about access to the bathrooms in the mornings! They can decorate their new rooms!), but they’re both still sad.

Anyone had the same? How did you help them through it?

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Wigeon · 15/11/2022 10:26

I floated the idea of a housewarming party for her friends with the 14 yr old yesterday and her eyes did light up 😁. And she was telling me about what sleepovers in the new house she’s planning with which different configurations of her friends, so that was good to hear. She also thought some of the sleepover crew could walk into town beforehand to see a film and walk back, another positive of the new house as it’s nearer town, so that was positive as well.

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Kitsmummy · 15/11/2022 11:18

Look on Pinterest with them for ideas for their new rooms and then after that I'd stop worrying tbh!

DanglyThings · 15/11/2022 11:31

Not much help, but I do sympathise with you. The house I bought 16 years ago was too small from the start. Kids are now 15 and 11 and share a room, so we do really need to move. The trouble is, they're so close, they never want to leave each other and don't want their own rooms! Argh!!! I'm sure yours will come round in time. Good luck, and happy new home Flowers

Wigeon · 17/11/2022 18:34

Kitsmummy · 15/11/2022 11:18

Look on Pinterest with them for ideas for their new rooms and then after that I'd stop worrying tbh!

The 14yr old has already been on Pinterest for room decorating inspo in fact, but then got in a grump because she could either find modern bedrooms, or ones with Victorian fireplaces looking all traditional/grown up…But clearly teens up and down the land are in Victorian bedrooms but not fustily decorated, so I’m sure we can figure something out…

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