I wrote a long post, but MN ate it! 🤬
short version - yes I'm still looking to move, but as others have said, I've slightly changed what I'm looking for and definitely future proofing by making sure it's something I could easily stay in if I need to, both financially and physically. I was in an accident last year and it's an eye opener how difficult stairs/upstairs only bathroom etc can really be. I have health issues and I'm only early 50's and my knees are bad, so I'm making very sure my next move I could live downstairs if I needed to, while also currently needing more space, so upstairs bedrooms & bathroom too.
In your situation I'd definitely definitely carefully go ahead. But remember 'going to university' doesn't mean they both won't be there in the holidays (of which there are many) and most come back to live after. As parents I think it's important to still give them a feeling of home being available/welcoming etc but if you're not in a financial place to offer that, having an open discussion about it, where they should hopefully understand you need to meet YOUR needs, but you're not just moving without a thought for them.
I'm going to port my mortgage & try to borrow as little extra as possible. I'll put any renovation plans on hold until I have saved the money to do them & not take out a long/mortgage to do them as I had planned.
@Allicando with regard to putting your mortgage so not moving in with family/friends. My bank (& I think most others) have a grace period so you can do exactly that. I think mine is 6 months with a possible extension if things are well underway but it's taking a while. So you may want to enquire about that - it might give you other options.
I think you need to move though! Just carefully & mindfully!! It's difficult not to have anyone to share the responsibility/decision making with, but it's also easier to only have yourself to please!!
good luck!!