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Buying a big house

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Yk19 · 27/07/2022 13:15

Hi all.

First world problem here. We are thinking about buying a lovely detached house. Thing is, we already have a nice house and this house is much bigger, with a big garden and would be bigger than the vast majority of our peers...and I am embarrassed about that. The only downside of the new house is that it is next to a campsite (albeit a well run one ). Having a wobble as to what to do. Anyone else felt awkward making this sort of move or should I stop moaning and get a grip?

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BarrelOfOtters2 · 27/07/2022 13:54

Stop moaning and get a grip.

BarrelOfOtters2 · 27/07/2022 13:56

MOre sympathetically, we did this. Bought a bigger house - a bigger house than we need to be fair. I love living in it and any linger feelings of guilt are long gone. It's also more expensive to run than old one so I can assuage my guilt with thinking how much cheaper it is to heat a smaller house.

Good luck and enjoy.

obsessedwithsleep · 27/07/2022 14:01

😂😂😂 I think this is beyond a first world problem.

You're overthinking. Buy the house and enjoy it.

foulmouthflora1 · 27/07/2022 15:06

Is this a joke...? You definitely need to get a grip. If you love it (and can afford it), buy it. DH and I live in a five bed house, much bigger than we need for two but we had a bigger house before and technically this latest purchase was a downsize 😂When you revel in the space you have, any feelings of guilt will soon be gone. Good luck with your purchase.

locomocol · 27/07/2022 15:42

Size isn't everything, a few of my friends have huge houses compared to me but I could buy a large house outright but just not where I am in S London. A friend does have the location & space, paid 2.5m for it but it's the party house!

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Yk19 · 27/07/2022 16:00

Ha ha! I am appreciating your brutal honesty 😁 I think we need to do a bit more homework on the ownerships around the house but think we are inclined to offer. I am guilty of overthinking things!

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kmbegs · 27/07/2022 16:07

I get this, we live in a house with three living rooms and four bedrooms etc., massive rooms at that, when most of our peers and especially our families are in much smaller and more modest properties. I definitely find it awkward at times and feel self conscious having people over for the first time but I guess like other things in life it's swings and roundabouts, not like it means I actually have a better life or am happier.

wuntootreefore · 27/07/2022 16:16

Don't worry about the size! I don't think friends think like that. I'd be more concerned about the campsite. How close to your house is it? Won't it be noisy during holiday season?

nokitchen · 27/07/2022 16:17

What do you mean campsite?

Aquamarine1029 · 27/07/2022 16:20

I'd be very, very wary of the campsite situation.

Ohheythereitsme · 27/07/2022 16:23

You’ll get used to it, when you go to other peoples houses they will feel tiny. Which is annoying though. Also all the walking around to get to things feels really tiring at first.

You’ll the odd person comment about how big it is but non issue really.

chopc · 27/07/2022 16:29

Buying a large house is great. But you need to be aware of the increased Maintainance eg more cleaning , more things to breakdown,
More grass to cut and more garden to maintain. If you are working you would need to "employ" people if you want to have any quality of life .... In addition the increased cost of heating, electricity and water ........

The fact you feel uncomfortable about buying a big house makes me wonder if you have factored in the above

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Yk19 · 27/07/2022 18:32

Yes def factored in the extra costs. Double the cleaning budget and we have had a gardener in the past so aware of that. We are fully expecting energy costs to double this winter before moving house. That isn't the issue. It is mainly psychological and feeling awkward when I had a more modest upbringing.

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Yk19 · 27/07/2022 18:34

The campsite is small and well run. They have a quiet policy after 10pm. The site is buffered from it by a storage yard that the site owners have (screened by trees). It is more the long term what happens there. We are going to investigate that further.

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TemperTrap · 27/07/2022 18:40

I do think you should get a grip because this isn't an actual problem!

I disagree with the PP who would be concerned about the campsite, I see that as a positive. No family staying over, you just lend them a tent and off they go. 👍

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Yk19 · 27/07/2022 22:22

😁

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AlwaysLatte · 27/07/2022 22:26

Try staying there in the campsite for a Saturday night to get a feel of the levels of noise etc.

Aquamarine1029 · 27/07/2022 22:40

Yk19 · 27/07/2022 18:34

The campsite is small and well run. They have a quiet policy after 10pm. The site is buffered from it by a storage yard that the site owners have (screened by trees). It is more the long term what happens there. We are going to investigate that further.

That's great for now, but those owners may not always be the owners. Things can change rapidly and not for the better.

MummyJasmin · 27/07/2022 22:44

You sound like you've worked hard and done well in life 🙂 Now enjoy it!

TizerorFizz · 27/07/2022 23:49

@Yk19
How can you investigate what a land owner might do?

I lived in a tiny house as a child and it had two bedrooms for 5 of us. No bathroom and an awful kitchen with no hot water tap. We had coal fires but y heated bedrooms. I spent every winter being cold.

Well no more. I now have 3 properties plus one I let out. My main house is large. I frankly don’t care about my upbringing. I love space, warmth and lots of bathrooms. If you really feel guilty about getting a bigger house, you were not truly in an awful house. We were and I love my properties.

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Yk19 · 28/07/2022 06:53

I don't care about my upbringing but I do have a social awkwardness about moving to a much, much bigger house. That is something I have to deal with. I should care less but its just me. As for the research on the site, we know the owners a little bit so can at least ask. It is a profitable business so I can't see that they would want it to go to rack and ruin but is def something to think about. Houses like the one we are looking at are a rarity in our area so we are torn.

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TizerorFizz · 28/07/2022 08:43

Social awkwardness? So you deliberately would hold back your ambition and goals because of what others think? Really? Would you do that over a job? Or a holiday? I think you should live your life for you. Not live it according to what others might think. Or indeed might not.

I thought you meant pp for housing on the site. I’ve seen very decent houses next door to camping sites in very expensive areas. It’s all part of the countryside economy.

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Yk19 · 28/07/2022 10:39

👍

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