I’m 43 and DH 39 snd we just took out a large 25 year mortgage. However, once we r done the works to our house (which we kept cash back for) and our nursery fees reduce from the current 1758 a month(!) to zero, we will have cash to overpay 10% without penalty and probs chunks here and there in between new fixing deals
we will also be downsizing when older so are trying not to worry about it too much. Plus we should get decent inheritance (though not banking on that for obvious reasons and know we can pay off without it).
Also, I have the ability to go back to what I was doing pre-kids if necessary which would double my salary overnight (and we live in a low tax jurisdiction so tax man wouldn’t be taking half of it!)
we thought about it pretty carefully before we took it out and did the sums, knowing we are currently at our most expensive point in time due to nursery fees (oh and I’m currently part time due to kids but will go back FT from sept 2023) and that there should be surplus from sept 2023 and even more from sept 2025 (we’ve fixed until April 2027 at 1.29%)
That said, the current shit hitting the fan in the economy is making us think we may put off getting our works done (they are not urgent) for a while - just so we’ve got a large cash buffer in case one of us loses our jobs.
the way we are viewing it is that we love our home and being at home so we’d rather pump our money into that than fancy cars/holidays (we drive crappy 2004 and 2009 cars)
as long as you’ve done the sums and planned as far as you can for contingencies, you should be ok