Bad neighbours builders fall out

[Madtulip]

Hi all

I’m looking for some advice on how to deal with neighbours after a bad build. I’m feeling very angry / upset / frustrated but I don’t discuss it with anyone because I’m trying to ensure the issue doesn’t take over my life .. I would be very grateful for exact advice on how ti deal with them when they’re back

1. We’ve lived here for 13 years very happy lots of lovely neighbours no issues at all

2 new neighbours buy Feb Covid year .. lots of child related noise (screaming crying out of control though ages are 7 to 10 years 3 girls. Knick knacks screaming on trampoline etc. got on with our lives tried to ignore then Covid parties by 3 - complained after second one as it was height of Covid. She said not her fault as they had just arrived. He said it was her fault .. ignored as much as possible after that then the 6 month build starts .. 17 months later after 6 incidents of having to contact them re damage to our property and they’ve overstepped planning (we didn’t do anything about this as council our area are useless ) … we,ve had noise from 630 in the morning to 1030 at night .. a few weeks back it was going on late one night so I read him the riot act - he just said oh yes I should have called in buy I didn’t and I’m sorry .. I think I said you’re a rude little dick …? anyway so not they’re moving back and whilst we’ve put up trees / sound proofing etc to mitigate things as much as we can … how should I treat them ? Act as if nothing happened / ignore ? We are well liked in our neighbourhood and they’ve p off a lot of people but are on good terms with their non adjoining neighbour - though I notice they’ve put up a big hedge too. Do these relationships settle down or has too much happened and I treat them as invisible ? Or do we move on knowing they’re rotten ?? Any experiences of same would be helpful. Thank you.

Life's too short. Just be friendly.

You called your neighbour a rude little dick! I expect that they will be trying to stay out of your way from now on!

seven201

You've clearly never experienced what the OP has then have you? Easy to be so trite from afar

Probably best for all parties of you ignore each other.

Just be polite but distant. You don’t want to land up stressed in your own home by being at war with your neighbours.

It rather sounds like your neighbours should be avoiding you, not the other way round.

Polite but distant. And move house if it keeps up. They’ve been ignorant but it sounds like you’ve handled it badly too, and the whole thing has escalated.

Polite but distant

Polite but distant is the only workable option, because it means you can either recover things if they calm down once the work is done, or you can sell with no disputes to declare if you decide to do that.

You can't call people dicks and expect them to work with you!

Thanks everyone for input. I will add that we’ve acted with a lot of constraint and initially we were welcoming and friendly. When I called him a little dick it was after months of being treated badly and my daughter was crying with the noise - couldn’t sleep so enough was enough at 1030 at night. We’ve no problems with anyone else and have done a build etc ourselves with no falling out with anybody treated everyone around us with consideration - result was other neighbours asked our builders back etc. we’re very shocked ?? That such inconsiderate people exist .. the highlight being the Covid party the weekend after a long time resident elderly lady across the road died. Everyone was wtf ? Anyway I’m at an age where I can’t be false and smiley but I could do it if it helps my kids live in peace etc. just wanted to see if people with experience of this stuff have done