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Ok we live in a village and as a result you can know too much and i am sort of in the middle of things and dont want to get involved both sides outraged - but just wonder what you think

friend A has got an over asking price offer for their house from a ftb they then offered on friends B house at full asking and then did many thorough surveys including of drains and so on delaying a sale. Friend B cannot exchange and complete as per the preferences of friend. A and ftb and this is made worse by the fact friend B is on a long planned holiday which has added 3 wks onto proceedings. So in effect this adds say 6 wks from the earliest date friend A could have exchanged.

Friend A is frustrated with friend B for slowing things down. Friend B is annoyed that friend A wont accept they had the holiday booked fot 2 years and that these dates where flagged at the start as being not available for exchange or completion believe if friend A has an over asking price offer perhaps they should complete their sale and go into rented.

What do people think I think both would do better to just relax and agree a way forward. Anyway any experience or stories where this has happened. Its all not helped because rentals and short term lets are v expensive at the mo

Feel caught in middle A and B do not know each other but I am friends with both.

If they are both moaning to you separately, just say you’d rather not be involved, and leave it at that.

Not your circus, not your monkeys. Don’t involve yourself.

sorry that should have read friend B believes friend A could go into temp accommodation.

and i fear friend B is getting annoyed with friend A for constantly trying to force an exchange date during friend Bs holiday time. To the point I think friend B may just sell to someone else.

Ah such a pity if all goes wrong

Yes am not involving myself

but was just wondering if this scenario is common thats alm

B is being odd about exchange. As long as they're ready and everything is signed, there's no reason not to exchange, with slightly-delayed completion due to the holiday. That would make me worry that B was pulling out, if I was A.

B could easily exchange, just not complete till it suits? B should be more proactive, a holiday doesn't stop you exchanging, you don't need to be physically about for it

Yes its tricky we have only ever been in new build so was not sure what is the norm

i think friend b is getting annoyed by endless demands to exchange whilst on holiday which they said they would not do even though i know they can do they also have no onward accommodation which i think is not helping

think this sale is going to collapse which is a shame for both of them - i am on holiday myself soon so hopefully dust settled either way by the time i return 😄 have not in anyway got involved each doesn't know i know the other so more of a whats normal in these circumstances

She exchanges before she goes on holiday and then completes when she gets back. Surely it’s simple?

They will want to exchange as then the chain really can’t break down and if it does then there are huge financial penalties involved so rarely happens. Everyone can relax once exchange has taken place.

I had similar, I was literally due to give birth and hounded by new build builders to exchange. I had no qualms about exchanging but the pressure was unrealistic especially when all could easily see I was about to pop (and had known this for some time). I was in labour 4 days and they rang me continually. It was enough to make me want to pull out. They wanted end of months sales, clearly. I think when B has been open and honest about these dates for so long A should accept and respect that and then when they’re home apply pressure. For what it’s worth we moved when dd was three weeks old. All went a dream

I think you need to stay well out of it is what i think.

Friend B is a fucking moron for trying to sell and complete so close to the holiday of a lifetime.

WTF fuck possessed them to try and sell before the holiday??

Why did they not delay putting the house on the market until they were over the holiday?

"Just move into rented" sounds really easy, but I regularly see people looking for a house for a short let on local Facebook groups and it appears to be hard to find a short term rental.

Ah yes am definitely staying silent on the issue

it is not really as simple as B deliberately selling near the holiday the house went on in January and they hoped to complete by Easter which would have suited them but friend A wished to have several additional surveys which pushed the date back and led to it coming closer to the holiday and without any planned onward accommodation so perhaps not so simple.

I am sticking to new build or chain free

But I am sensing on here there is more sympathy with friend A but have no idea what the norm is which is why i thought i would ask here

Selling a house really is a 'how long is a piece of string' affair.

There's no telling how long it's going to take and there's no guarantee that any sale will go through.

Friend A was far too optimistic about deadlines.

Sorry, Friend B.

Friend A can have as many surveys as she likes.

they are both being dramatic.

House sales are unpredictable, they can go through quickly or slowly and all sorts of things can hold them up.
The holiday was booked, the buyer knew that and should have taken it into account. I would not want to be hassled from my solicitor while on holiday, having said that, they could easily have said as long as nothing changes go ahead and exchange while we are away.

3 weeks is nothing in house selling terms. If you have to wait 3 weeks until they come back, then you wait 3 weeks. They are unlikely to lose their own sale as the option between 3 week wait or start again with buying a new house is no contest, you wait 3 weeks.

so they are both being unreasonble and a bit unrealistic.

Why can’t they just exchange so everyone can feel confident no one will pull out and B must V have a delayed set moving date. No reason the holiday has to hold that up, solicitors do that bit all you do is confirm yes on the day. Friend B is being awkward for no reason.