@stuntbubbles
I think possibly this 😬
We only have one DS9 who is very self sufficient - and I do feel he's been a bit neglected due to all the work - so not sure I'd face it with two tinies...
but DS says he much prefers this house, and loves being able to have an impromptu run up and down the garden in middle of supper, so I'm still glad we did it really...
You have basically described the house we bought 18 months ago (although it does have replaced for wooden double glazed sashes throughput) - but we still do want to knock two load bearing walls out of the bottom floor to open up kitchen and French doors to outside.
We've now done most of top two floors... redec throughout and two replaced bathrooms (one was leaking into lounge...) and some really weird seventies stuff in a Victorian semi (pine cladding, even on ceilings...)
But if you do go for it, tips that have worked for us:
Make friends with local neighbours and get recommendations for Trades. Our opposite neighbour recommended Gary
Find one great tradesperson (Gary the wonderful decorator). Then all their mates seem to be plumbers / tilers / leccies/ etc
You have your team.
Get as many who are under tax threshold as you can so they aren't needing to charge vat
(Plumbers excepted- they always seem to charge vat)
Employ all separately (if you employ one builder to do the lot you'll be into vat on everything as they then sub contract / employ so turnover is so high)
Be prepared to do as much as you can yourself (basic painting, decking, etc) and only get pros in for tricky stuff.
So we got a plasterer in (Gary's mate) to remove artex in our bedroom,
DH and I painted it all,
Gary put up the wallpaper on the chimney breast (I don't do wallpaper)
Do it in small stages with breathers ( your brain gets decision fatigue and you get fed up of making countless cups of tea - and buying sugar) - which it sounds from your list you could
Do give all your trades countless mugs of tea, the odd Danish pastry - and if you decide halfway through a big wall that Timeless is too mushroom and it's got to be FB Tallow, also give a bottle of wine to acknowledge you've just made him do the same job twice... [guilty me lord] Yes, he may also charge you for the extra time (he actually didn't) but it's worth a tenner on a nice bottle of red to just keep everyone happy and show appreciation.
There's been raging threads on whether or not making tea for trades is a Good Idea before, so my wine offerings are probably not for all... but so far so good here....
Kitchen next 😬