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Pregnant and hate noisy home

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sunflowers90 · 27/04/2022 14:28

We bought our first home in autumn last year and I’ve regretted it ever since. It’s on a busy road used by lorries and buses and I find the noise unbearable to the point I can’t relax or focus properly. It wakes me up most weekdays, but doesn’t affect my partner.

I had real reservations about buying it in the first place, mostly because of the road. My husband thinks it’s a great buy and sees opportunity in it, as do his parents who gave us the deposit for it - I felt pressure not to be difficult about it or seem ungrateful for the financial help.

I found out I was pregnant around the time of viewing (which ended in loss) and panicked about the 1 bed flat we were renting at the time. There weren’t many other options in budget on the market so I agreed to making an offer.
The good thing about it is the size and the garden. It’s a three bed house, admittedly not in a great area but also not far from nice spots.

It is liveable but it’s not a pleasant space right now. There’s an overwhelming amount of work to do and we simply can’t afford to do a lot of it. There’s half finished jobs in every room and DIY is just not my thing, I’m terrible at it!

I think that we’ll add some value to it so I hope one day it will feel worth it. My partner won’t consider selling so soon and gets frustrated when I bring this issue up. I am pregnant again (going okay so far!) but terrified of dealing with the road noise, and renovations with a new baby. It feels like there’s no option but to find a way to make it work until he considers selling. I’m just so stressed and disheartened whenever I’m at home. The idea of being here while I’m on maternity leave is so daunting. I’ve had terrible pregnancy sickness so I’ve been stuck at home a lot - the road noise is loud and I feel like crying. Anyway, not even sure why I’m posting except to see if anyones been through similar and made the best of it. Well done and thank you if you’ve made it to the end of this essay!

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BakeOffRewatch · 27/04/2022 14:32

Can you get triple glazed windows? Even if just your bedroom so you’re not woken.

Solidarity, I hated where I live during pregnancy and mat leave it was a 1 bed. After 3 months you’ll be out at groups with baby hopefully and the noise of toddlers will drown it out. Babies surprisingly just get used to their environment, mine sleeps through loud next door neighbours and karaoke while I’m pulling my hair out!

sunflowers90 · 27/04/2022 15:47

Thanks @BakeOffRewatch - reassuring to know at least the baby probably won’t be bothered by the noise even if I am! And very true, I can make sure I’m not stuck at home for the whole time.

I was really close to getting double glazed windows with ‘acoustic glass’ for the bedroom but read bad reviews about them not making much difference and lost confidence! I’ll look into triple glazing too, thank you :)

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BakeOffRewatch · 27/04/2022 15:53

Sounds good. Try not to fixate on the noise keeping you up or the single issue upsetting you. There’s lots about pregnancy that keeps you up even if you were in the middle of nowhere, reflux, hormones. Think of the road noise as a companion for those times! Best wishes for the pregnancy.

BakeOffRewatch · 27/04/2022 15:54

i looked into triple glazing but as we wanted to move it wasn’t worth the cost and disruption. Windows have a life span, but I’m sure having them in will be one of the value adds to your house if you stay a while.

nearlyspringyay · 27/04/2022 15:55

I used to live under the Heathrow flight oath as a student, it was awful at first but became strangely comforting. Try not to focus on it, a screaming baby will drown it out anyway!

Birdy78 · 27/04/2022 15:56

Sorry to hear you’re so stressed. When you’re resting use ear plugs or a white noise cd ( come in handy for the baby later ) and try breathing exercises when you feel like screaming because your nerves are shredded.
Instead of having loads of half finished rooms put all your efforts into getting one room finished and nicely furnished so you can have a little haven. Road noise can be reduced by heavy curtains, not blinds. By carpets not hard flooring and by increasing soft furnishings in a room. If you’re skint then start looting the second hand shops for finds.
Put Classic FM on during the day or something you like. Listen to music that relaxes or uplifts you but listen to something rather than traffic. Make a list of all the troubling stresses at the moment and brainstorm what could be done to improve things.
I lived on a major road for years with four lanes of buses, lorries and heavy traffic day and all night. You can get used to it. At least until the time is right for your next move. Good luck.

BakeOffRewatch · 27/04/2022 16:07

Oh yes white noise!

spotify told me I listened to this for 7000 minutes in 2021 😂

open.spotify.com/episode/6ewobGtwdiwSvEtPYIaVA1?si=6MkWpaZYSOe9JGFnOfTuZw

free on YouTube

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