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Creepy to put a note through the door...?

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lamby12 · 11/04/2022 11:31

Wondering if people think this is a weird idea and also looking for fellow frustrated property hunters!!!

So we're in the position of a lot of people at the moment... Trying to move to a nice area with good schools, hoping to move from a 'first house' that we bought pre children to a forever home.

On paper we've got the budget for a spacious 4 bed detached with decent garden in our chosen location, reasonable condition with the potential to make improvements and maybe extend in future. The plan is to be there forever, so we're happy to compromise on the interior as long as it's liveable for the first few years.

However with the market the moment, we're missing out on everything going immediately or going to best and final and someone going absolutely crazy with a enormous bid we can't compete with.

We've spent the last few years looking at things intermittently but we're being choosy because we don't want to move twice and then paused the search to have another baby etc. However, we're ramping up the search now because eldest child is 3.5. Doesn't start school until sept '23 but we want to be there in good time for applications etc.

Where we want to move is also same area that my parents and school friends live. At the moment we're marooned in a random location 1.5hrs from everyone and I want to benefit from the support and community we'll have as soon as possible. My husband works long hours and weekends so I'm on my own with children a lot. My mum comes up one day a week, she would love to more but it's a long journey with awful traffic. I have a few mum friends but it's not enough for proper support and most have 9-5 mon-fri working husbands!

We found the perfect house last week. It went on the market the week before and I knew straight away. I hassled the agent 4 times over 2 days for the earliest viewing because they were inundated. It was ideal and they went to best and final. We got a call saying it was between us and another. There were 20+ offers. They liked that I grew up on that street... but the other offer was higher. We went massively over asking and couldn't go another penny without risking mortgage refusal. They went with the higher offer.

Apparently the house was on the market after the previous sale fell through. I am of course hoping it falls through again, maybe the other party went silly high and they're finances won't work out...and I'd hope they'll come back to us! I made that clear to the agent but they're so busy the agent was like 'yeah, sure, bye!' I don't have any hope that the agent passed it on or that we'd get a call if it fell through.

I was thinking of a short letter/note through the door saying along the lines of; 'hope you don't mind the note, we bid 'x' on the house, weren't successful, we loved the house, if anything changes please feel free to contact us direct about our offer, contact details' ... I thought this was fairly inoffensive and makes them likely to contact us. Husband says it's a creepy thing to do....! Of course it could come to nothing but I heard 1/3 of sales are falling through at the moment.

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sarahb083 · 11/04/2022 11:38

I don't think it's creepy. I wouldn't hold your breath, but it can't hurt.

I often see it recommended on here to put notes through doors of houses you like in case they're thinking of selling - could be worth a try.

Minikievs · 11/04/2022 11:40

I'd do it. What have you got to lose 🤷🏼‍♀️

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/04/2022 11:41

Not creepy at all.

Nelliephant1 · 11/04/2022 11:43

There's a post somewhere else this morning from the daughter of someone who had such a note posted through their door. She was freaking out a bit but pretty much everyone said that it was normal practice and it was recommended in the house selling industry to absolutely post notes so go for it!!

See if you can find the thread from this morning. The note the people sent through that door was really nicely worded.

Good luck!

IncompleteSenten · 11/04/2022 11:44

I don't think it is but you can't be sure how it would be perceived.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4526935-Cheeky-request-to-buy-parents-house-AIBU

Ohquietone · 11/04/2022 11:48

I’d do it. Nothing lost. Are there no areas that are decent outside of where you’d love to be? The market seems to be crazy everywhere at the moment.

HavfrueDenizKisi · 11/04/2022 11:50

Not creepy at all. We did it for one particular house when we were looking a good few years back as we knew these couple were in the process of relocating (via friends who lived on this road). We had a good response and went to see the house with a view or having it valued by three estate agents and choosing the average price to negotiate from. As it was, the house, although lovely, wasn't a good layout for us with kids (previous owners kid free), so we didn't proceed.

Where we live now we often get speculative letters through the door. You may be lucky!

C25kBecky · 11/04/2022 12:03

I'd do it. Not creepy at all.

WoolyMammoth55 · 11/04/2022 13:14

Just to echo the above! We've had lots of notes through our door (house not for sale, just nice and good area) from the generic EA ones to the hand-written and sweet.

In your case you've got every reason to emphasise you love the house, you were the 2nd highest offer, your finances are in order and you love the house. You wish them best of luck with the sale but if anything should go awry please call you before putting back on market.

I don't think it can possibly hurt and you never know!

Deadringer · 11/04/2022 13:17

That's how my sister got her house. Not creepy at all.

lamby12 · 11/04/2022 13:55

Thanks everyone. I didn't think it was creepy.

I'm more of a make stuff happen person (otherwise known as impatient and relentless....) husband is more of a wait for life to happen person.

I just have a feeling it may fall through. The sellers haven't found their property yet and are looking for something bigger so there must be even less at their price point. Even if the sellers get everything in order after survey, finances, valuation etc for their crazy offer... the buyers may get fed up of waiting. Whereas we're happy to wait a bit for this house. Provided it's definitely happening.

Worth a try, I'll probably do it!!!

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Overthinker19 · 15/04/2022 19:10

I don’t think it’s creepy. Re school applications, they tend to close many months before the start date so keep that in mind

MarineBlue33 · 15/04/2022 19:37

Yes, school applications need to be in by January '23 so you may think about really ramping up your search or moving into rented in the area you want

Starseeking · 15/04/2022 20:26

I'm currently in the process of buying a house that I wrote a nice letter to. I sent about 20 similar letters over the course of a couple of months. My vendors had seen the EA the day before receiving my letter, and were ready to go to market the next week. I basically paid them market value NOT to put it on the open market, plus they are saving EA fees. They've found a chain free property to buy, meaning so far it's going well, probably because we are all sensible people with a common goal.

The way you've described phrasing your note sounds fine. You've got nothing to lose, and everything to gain by letting them know you'd like to be next in the queue. Good luck!

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