Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Property/DIY

Join our Property forum for renovation, DIY, and house selling advice.

To move, or not to move?

17 replies

Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 20:33

Last summer, I put my house on the market & sold it, with a view to buying a bungalow to accommodate my elderly parents who have significant health issues (mum has had 3 mini stroke & a triple heart bypass & now has muscle wastage on the right side of her body) & dad had a heart attack at the end of January which resulted in him having 3 stents. I'm not in good condition myself, arthritis, lupus etc.

The sale ended up falling through as the bungalow we were buying needed to go through probate & a family member was a sitting tenant. A total nightmare scenario.
It fell through the same week my dad had his heart attack. I told my EA we needed a break & wasn't ready to remarket the house.

The EA rang me last week & asked if we were ready & I agreed. So we've got an open day booked for next weekend, all day Saturday!
But I'm having serious second thoughts about moving at all.

I live in a new build, 4 bed detached. Up until the energy crisis, my fuel bills were £60 p/m in the summer & about £80 p/m in the winter. It's going up to about £130 p/m. I know this is very cheap as a lot of people are paying £300/£400 to heat their homes. And it'll be going up again in October.
I've no mortgage but all 3 of us have pensions we're surviving on. I've been medically retired due to aforementioned illnesses. I'm also a full time carer for my mum.

The bungalows we're looking at are obviously old, 1920's and aren't going to be as insulated as this house. The fuel bills are going to be very high.
And I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to squeeze a 4 bed house into a 3 bed bungalow.

The reason we were moving originally was because my mum struggled with mobility & fell down the stairs. We now have a stair lift which is a game changer.

My parents aren't getting any younger (both in their v early 70s) so the bungalow seemed a good idea in the long term, but we'd struggle with fuel bills of £400 p/m.

Sorry post is long 🥺

OP posts:
RandomMess · 01/04/2022 20:44

Sit tight and install a lift if the stair lift is no longer suitable.

Webbedlife · 01/04/2022 20:46

From everything you've said it sounds like a bad time to move, unless you have any other pressing reasons. You've got the stairlift in place, old bungalows are often E rated for energy and often don't have much potential beyond D. Plus it doesn't sound like a good time to add in more stress unless you really have to do it.

Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 21:31

I absolutely love my house. I bought this 8 yrs ago with the thought that it was my forever home. My kitchen is hugh & nothing else has come close (except the bungalow that fell through). It really does feel like the very wrong time to move. And it'll cost about £23k just to move (solicitors fee, stamp duty etc). We might need that for fuel bills! 🤦🏼‍♀️

OP posts:
Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 21:32

@RandomMess

Sit tight and install a lift if the stair lift is no longer suitable.

The stair lift is amazing! The best thing we could have done 👍🏼

OP posts:
SwimBike007 · 01/04/2022 21:34

Stay put enjoy your house and use £25k moving costs to add adaptation’s to help your parents.

Webbedlife · 01/04/2022 21:43

@Duchess379

I absolutely love my house. I bought this 8 yrs ago with the thought that it was my forever home. My kitchen is hugh & nothing else has come close (except the bungalow that fell through). It really does feel like the very wrong time to move. And it'll cost about £23k just to move (solicitors fee, stamp duty etc). We might need that for fuel bills! 🤦🏼‍♀️
In that case, it's definitely not worth it.
Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 22:18

Thanks guys, you've helped me tremendously.
I'll be having an awkward conversation with the EA tomorrow 😬

OP posts:
Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 22:20

@SwimBike007

Stay put enjoy your house and use £25k moving costs to add adaptation’s to help your parents.

👍🏼

OP posts:
FiloPasty · 01/04/2022 22:21

Agree stay x

Shurl · 01/04/2022 22:27

@Duchess379

Thanks guys, you've helped me tremendously. I'll be having an awkward conversation with the EA tomorrow 😬
Don't worry about that, it's not awkward at all. And you shouldn't feel bad. Just expect them to be pushy, they are salesmen after all and just after your commission!
Duchess379 · 01/04/2022 23:17

💕👍🏼

OP posts:
SwimBike007 · 02/04/2022 18:55

I love watching Love it or List it on C4, as nearly always they stay by spending their moving costs to make over their homes. Hope you get to enjoy your home for many years.

Duchess379 · 02/04/2022 20:46

I phoned the EA today & took my house off the market. I feel so much less stressed already!
The £25k I've put aside to pay for fees, I'm going to use to do some little updates in this one.
It's not just the house I love, but the area. I've got some really decent neighbours, local amenities like Dr's & hospitals are close by, lots of green areas to walk my dogs. I was seriously stressing about this stuff - would this be as good if we moved. So, yes I'm confident I've made the right decision 😊

OP posts:
SapatSea · 02/04/2022 20:51

Glad you have made a decision. I bet it would also be hard to find as many toilets and bathrooms as you get in a new build in an old bungalow.

Duchess379 · 03/04/2022 16:43

@SapatSea

Glad you have made a decision. I bet it would also be hard to find as many toilets and bathrooms as you get in a new build in an old bungalow.

Exactly! One cloakroom downstairs & 2 bathrooms upstairs! It's perfect 💐

OP posts:
Candleabra · 03/04/2022 16:47

Perfect decision. I bet you feel so much lighter for making it.
Funny how things work out for the best sometimes even if you can’t see it at the time.

Duchess379 · 03/04/2022 20:48

@Candleabra

Perfect decision. I bet you feel so much lighter for making it. Funny how things work out for the best sometimes even if you can’t see it at the time.

😊👍🏼

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page