Does anyone else get upset seeing changes being made at their old house?

[Salome61]

Hello everyone, I was widowed and forced to sell our family home in 2020, I just couldn't afford the bills and upkeep. I was very attached to the house and its memories, especially as my husband died there.

I've just seen an application on the Planning portal and the owner is going to make lots of changes. Some of the things we'd saved up for years to do and they are going to be ripped out.

How can I let go and move on? Is it just grief do you think?

Same. I have avoided going back to my childhood home and am avoiding going back to look at the home I sold last summer after having lived therefor over forty years. It's not hard to avoid; I simply want to remember both houses as they were.

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

Yes, we sold childhood home of 60 years after my parents died. Foĺlow new owners on fb.....they've made huge changes which wouldn't be my taste. Horrible when I have to drive past. But at least it's a family making their own memories and not converted to flats or something. We did consider keeping it in family but not financially viable. But really even if we still had it the times past are still past, still memories

Oh OP it must be so hard.
We bought a property last year from a lady who was widowed there and had been there 30 years. We’ve made a lot of changes, and it’s not because it wasn’t a lovely house. We wouldn’t have bought it if we didn’t love it too. It just needed a bit of TLC and updating to work better for us. I really hope she would like what we’ve done, and it will be our family forever home for many years too. I’m sorry for your loss OP.

sometimes a previous owner will be pleased to think the house will come alive with a new family in it, children running around usw, but still not want to see it when it has changed.