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Stressed about moving house and potential school move

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Sw82 · 21/03/2022 19:40

We have been through a long process of selling our house and finding one we liked. We looked at loads and our buyers pulled out once and we resold again.

We loved the house initially. There were 2 that we really liked, we visited with our 2 children DD 16 and Ds13 and we agreed as a family. I couldn't wait to move but then started having a few niggling doubts as exchanged neared.

The house is different to our current one. It's a 3 story town house with balcony. It's gorgeous inside but is obviously different to my current home which we designed and decorated over a long period of time. We've been here 15 years. It doesn't have a garage and the garden is a lot smaller. I initially thought this was better as I hate gardening and only like sunbathing or sitting out! But now I'm not sure....

Anyway we exchanged with a completion date at the end of the month. I have now gone extremely anxious, something I haven't really experienced before. I can't sleep, can't eat and feel dread! I have lost some of this lockdown weight though so every cloud!! But, I can't help feeling we have made a massive mistake. Our current house wasn't perfect but it worked well for us, is close to work, close to school and college and easy for my DD to get buses.

The new house is in a village only 10 miles away but it feels quite rural. The village is beautiful and the few people I know who have lived or live their love it.

My main worry is for my son who is in Year 8. He currently walks to his school and if he stays at his school he will now need to get 2 buses or I will need to drive him 10 miles each way which could be costly with the fuel prices and stressful as I work full time.

His current school isn't great, he complains he hates school but I feel he likes it. He's a relatively quiet boy and the majority of his friends are those from primary. Out of school he doesn't see his friends very much and they tend to game together. Occasionally he'll walk to the park to meet them.

I just feel gutted that I am taking all of this away from him. Initially I thought he could move to the high school in the village as long as he did this before year 9. He said he would consider but has now changed his mind. I have said he can still stay at the same school but get the bus, which he pulls his face at. He's a young 13 year old and I would worry about him on the bus.

What would you do? The moves happening and I hope I feel better and settle, but would you move your teen or not? The new school has an amazing reputation and he would have local friends. But what happens if he doesn't settle and withdraws into himself!

Any advice or stories are much appreciated!

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FortunesFave · 22/03/2022 02:11

Your concerns about your son are natural...but I have to be honest and say that its not up to him if he stays at his current school. It's not great by your own admission and he's got mates there yes...but he's not exactly enjoying a cracking social life either.

A move might be a good thing. Change happens in life...it's a good lesson for children. They need to be flexible and adjust to new situations.

If he goes to the new school and a year passes and he hates it and hasn't settled, then send him back to his old one. The world won't stop. It will be fine.

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