Moving on Friday, toddler not sleeping, anxiety going through the roof..

[Sandrine1982]

Hi,
I'm not sure what I want from this post, probably a bit of a hand-hold and reassurance from people who have been through similar.

We bought a house and we are moving on Friday. I'm absolutely terrified. Moreover, DD (29 months) has been going through a very bad sleep regression meaning she wakes up around 3 times a night. She is a handful during the day too.

My anxiety has been through the roof and I can't get back to sleep after she first wakes me around 1am.
We have a packing service booked the day before completion but there is just so much to think about. I'm not excited about the new house. I'm actually dreading leaving our nice, warm, beautiful flat just to be in a big, cold house that needs work. I'm depressed, sleep deprived and stressed, from the move, deadlines at work, problems with toddler. It's just all too much. I'm aware this probably sounds like first-world problems to some, but i'm seriously in a downward spiral and I don't see an end to it.

Please will it get better?
X

Aw bless you 💐

It will be tough, but it will pass. Once you are in the house, you can breathe a little; it’s more stressful because it’s hanging over you. You don’t have yet the adrenaline of the day to push you.

It’s very hard to be positive and objective when you are sleep deprived!

What helped me was not rushing in with huge expectations (still had unpacked boxes a year later!) and being easy on yourself while you are going through this transition.

💐

Thank you, that really helps. I've moved so many times in my life, and always felt excited. But moving with a toddler is a whole different ball game.

We moved 10 days ago. I was exactly the same as we were pushing it through at speed to save our purchase becoming probate We had to get 3 kids sorted and into new schools. I was waking every night at 1am.

We moved. We had packers too, which was a good call, but I found ceding control stressful as well, and there was stuff just everywhere. We didnt get in until 4pm and it was freezing literally as we waited on the drive for 3 hours (for no reason). The heating didnt work, we had no carpets, oven and the bath looked unusable.

First night I woke up at 1am again. Suddenly felt quite peaceful, because it is so quiet here.

Every night since I have slept like a log, all the way hrough for the first time in years.

it was all worth it.

TLDR - keep going, you can do this!

My way of dealing with anxiety is to write lists, tick things off when I've done them, and rewrite the list for the next day.

Let your baby have a packing box and fill it with balls or something different to keep her happy whilst you are thinking and getting organised.

If you have packers coming in everything will be fine.

You can clean each room when it's packed.

Photograph your gas/electric/water meter, using Timestamp if you have it on your phone.

Scrub the oven and have a take away Thursday night.

Label all the keys for the new owners. Leave them a list about bin day, instruction booklets for any equipment you are leaving.

What you do have to do is pack the things you want to have in your car. Your jewellery, very fragile items, any medication, important documents etc.

Then bedding for you all, toiletries and towels, loo roll, the kettle, tea coffee and mugs, first aid box, as well as all the things you need for your baby. Make the beds at your new house as soon as they are up.

Good luck and I wish you much happiness in your new home.

It’s hard isn’t it? I’ve just come down with an awful cold less than a week before we move. So my teens are doing everything while o rest with the toddler and dh is at new house ripping up carpets.

We have moved loads and it’s always stressful but it’s over so quickly and you do settle in fast. Try to focus on the reasons you chose the house and otherwise it’s just a matter of getting through. This time next week it will all be over, you don’t have to unpack quickly you can take time, no rush.

Goodluck op.

I did it too a few times with young ones. @vSalome61 has it nailed for you.

At this point it may help to take a deep breath, let the end point go ,and start to enjoy the process.
Clean bedding, towels, bath essentials, etc in one bag and a small bag of clean clothes in another. Have that in the car within easy reach.

Your new house will become a home over time. You certainly have a lot on your plate but you know you will get through it. And knowing that you might as well decide to enjoy it. Goodluck

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Thank you all. It's so nice to hear people's experiences. I just want it over with ... and just be in the new house and check that the heating is working and the neighbours are quiet. Everything else will be a bonus .

Thank youuuu