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Did I do enough?

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Ellie2015 · 13/11/2021 15:41

I somehow feel I should have done something else…

We recently bought our first home (hassle free no agent involved). The lovely owner came to drop a the keys and bought a lovely bouquet (actually price tag was still there in small prints-costing £15). I baked this morning for him and gifted a box of cupcakes to him. We also served him with some snacks and a cup of tea. he is such a gentle man…I feel we should have perhaps done something else but what? May be lunch instead of snacks? Do you think I did enough anyway? Thanks

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lomoloko · 13/11/2021 15:44

Er, I think it's fine to give him several hundred thousand pounds and call that enough.

vajingleberry · 13/11/2021 15:54

@lomoloko

Er, I think it's fine to give him several hundred thousand pounds and call that enough.
Yes, this.

Presumably you had baked the cakes before he turned up?

If he arrived empty handed would you still have given him the cakes?

If he had arrived with some flowers that cost £3 would you still have given him the cakes?

"Thank you for the lovely flowers, that's very kind" is all that was needed.

He's obviously not a MN user or he wouldn't have eaten anything home baked that was not presented with a hygiene certificate Grin

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Ellie2015 · 13/11/2021 22:39

My English isn’t as good to understand the tone and meaning of any of the above messages. Sorry but please if you could clearly write if you are indeed meaning to give any reasonable advice.

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Starryskiesinthesky · 13/11/2021 22:41

The cakes look lovely and that is quite enough ☺️

LawnFever · 13/11/2021 22:41

I’ve never given anyone flowers or cakes after buying/selling a house.

It all sounds very civilised and lovely, yes you did more than enough.

MrsBobDylan · 13/11/2021 22:49

You did enough, stop worrying!

Dillydollydingdong · 13/11/2021 22:55

We don't normally give anything to anyone who either sells us their house OR buys ours.

namechange30455 · 13/11/2021 22:56

Anything more than what you did would be too much I think! I have never exchanged gifts with the vendor of a house I was buying, and I'd feel a bit weird having them in "my"/"their" house for a cup of tea!

Justcannotbearsed · 14/11/2021 08:57

You did a lovely thing and yes it’s enough.

Jennalong · 14/11/2021 09:00

Yes , I would say your hospitality was enough. You were very kind to make those cakes and I'm sure he appreciated receiving them.

vajingleberry · 14/11/2021 09:35

@Ellie2015

My English isn’t as good to understand the tone and meaning of any of the above messages. Sorry but please if you could clearly write if you are indeed meaning to give any reasonable advice.
You did fine Grin

Nothing else was needed.

lomoloko · 14/11/2021 13:58

@Ellie2015

My English isn’t as good to understand the tone and meaning of any of the above messages. Sorry but please if you could clearly write if you are indeed meaning to give any reasonable advice.
I was making a (gentle) joke, but my underlying meaning was that you don't need to worry and you did enough. The cakes are lovely and so are you. Don't worry so much.
DramaAlpaca · 14/11/2021 14:00

You were very kind and you did more than most people would do in that situation. Stop worrying.

maofteens · 14/11/2021 14:14

I wouldn't want to meet who I bought from or sold too. But I do leave a bottle of wine and/or bunch of flowers for the new owners and a sheet explaining the bin collection times and names and numbers of tradespeople.
It was very nice of him to come by in person and you offered him lovely cakes - that is quite enough and more than most people would even think of doing.

Bobholll · 14/11/2021 17:42

I left our buyers some chocolates for the kids & a bottle of Prosecco we had kicking around (we kept getting given bottles from family & friends 🙈).

The people we bought off left us a leaking shower, a broken washing line & some unwanted shelves in the garage. Oh & they only hired two small removal vans meaning they had to move all their stuff into the garage and do several runs to their new house while we moved our stuff in at 5pm. I was fuming. They cost us an extra £300 on removal men who sat around waiting from 2pm - 5pm 😡 I had some very shitty words with them as they finally left. Knobs. Our now neighbours hated them. Two houses got together for a celebratory drink the day the left 😂

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Ellie2015 · 15/11/2021 09:45

Aw thank you for making me feel so good. Yes it was very civilised as it was a straightforward deal no negotiations from either side after price agreed (that too easy process) and despite solicitors being annoyingly delaying things vendor was giving them a nudge time to time and was fully accessible to us. Very decent man, loves to help people and volunteers a lot. It was their family home for more than 50 years so must have been a bit emotional for them hence perhaps they wanted to come for one final time. I place myself and can feel his sentiments.

Thank you for making me feel I did enough. Much love to you xx

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JudgeRindersMinder · 16/11/2021 09:26

We bought similar to you this year, family home in same ownership for 50 years, and the family left us a bottle of champagne, flowers and a card, which was lovely.
You did a lovely thing and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise

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