To pull out or not

[sequinandsatin]

Help calm me down and make me think rationally please!

Due to exchange on house move on Friday. Today I went to see house for final time before exchange just to make sure everything is okay.

I hate it.

That pretty much sums it up. I only bought it because it was a house I managed to actually get an offer accepted on. Survey was meh but that's always the case with old houses. It would be downsizing as I'm moving to a more expensive area but it's just so much smaller.

I know everyone gets last minute nerves and all that but I really just feel like I am making a huge huge huge mistake.

No idea what to do now. Did anyone else have the same thoughts at this stage and go ahead and was it okay? Or did you end up regretting it?

@Pinkdelight3

That was the case here. We moved from a bigger house in a less nice area to a smaller, very meh house in a nicer area. But I love the area and the house is better now so it's all worked out. Hope it does for you if you stick with it, or that you can at least make a swift decision either way.

Sounds like the area helped lift the house for you.

I've decided to go back and have a drive round the area again if not the house before making any major decisions, remind myself why I chose that house.

These things happen. I'm on the other side of the equation as sellers have just ghosted me before exchange.

I assume that whatever is going on they are just doing whatever they feel they need to. If you have to pull out it's fine. Your buyers may well get more for it if they relist and you could sell your searches to a new buyer and provide the survey.

What changed from the day before you went to see it? Why did you go?

If it helps, I viewed my house again a few days before exchange and I felt worried I'd done the wrong thing as well.
I think with me it was moving from a home I'd lived in for 25 years so a bit of a jolt. It was absolutely nerves though and I love my home.

I've decided to go back and have a drive round the area again if not the house before making any major decisions, remind myself why I chose that house.

That’s not a bad idea. But to be as fair as possible to everyone else in the chain, I’d try and do this swiftly. It’s going to be even more painful for them the closer to Friday that you pull out.

There not to say you should go through with it for them, it’s massive decision and it needs to feel right, and it doesn’t sound like this does for you, or ever has, but I’d try and be fair to them.

Thank you all again for your kindness it's very appreciated. I see why everyone says moving house is so stressful and it can really cloud judgment.

I had a drive around the area and stopped for a walk around the little local high street and I'm definitely happy with the area and really like it. Big tick. House is on a quiet estate, all the houses are well maintained, it looks a lovely area to live in.

Also had a long chat with a very no nonsense friend of mine who has known me for years. She has a friend who is trying to start out in interior design and is going to help me (I couldn't afford someone experienced). Breaking it down I think the biggest issue is the thought of less space but I think with some clever help I could make it feel liveable. We also worked out the finances that even if I did really hate it and sell it in a year I wouldn't end up losing a huge amount (unless there really was a massive house price crash but I can't see it happening).

Thanks all again. I've calmed down and will go ahead. It's always a gamble but lots of positives even if the house is a bit meh. Worst case scenario I just move again in a year's time but hopefully by then things should be a bit more 'normal'.

Well done! You’ve made a rational informed decision and that’s not to be taken lightly.
I moved house earlier this year, it took about six months to go through, and three days before exchange, I found out an indemnity policy id insisted on couldn’t be honoured, and made the mistake of googling the road name to find reports of ‘shots fired’ in a house around the corner.

But I moved in February and haven’t regretted it for a single second. Side note, I moved from a four bedroom, three storey house to a three bed semi and so have less space but actually moving somewhere with a fresh perspective has given me chance to put things in proper places as opposed to where they’ve always lived.

Well done! Last minute nerves are normal. Glad it's worked out for you.

Well done that all sounds very rational and sensible.

I'm sure it is all just nerves and it will all work out. Do remember that when you actually get the keys on moving day it will look awful being all bare with no furniture. It will take time to make this your new home but you will get there.

Good luck with it all.

Ah that sounds very promising. Great about the area and the designer. Hope this last bit goes smooth and you can start making it your own soon.