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Invisiblewoman1 · 09/09/2021 21:37

I sold a flat and bought a house 6 months ago. Moved areas to leave london snd live nearer family. I love the house and love the area, I’ve been renovating it and moved in a week ago. During the day I love it but at night I am really struggling to sleep. It’s been a week so now I’m exhausted. I don’t have any internal doors or curtains so I’m sure that’s not helping.
But it’s just so quiet compared to my london flat so any noise wakes me up instantly and then I’m anxious.
When will I start to relax and sleep and feel like I’m home?? Is this normal or hace I made a mistake?

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Wishingwell75 · 09/09/2021 22:40

That's a lot of changes. Especially when you consider the huge amount of almost constant noise that over time, you unconsciously filtered out whilst living in London.
It does take time to adapt to new homes and get to know the natural sounds of your new home, the creeks and plumbing/pipes etc.
Firstly, the curtains. For me, completely non negotiable, I just can't sit in a lit room when it's dark outside. I expect it's a lizard brain thing and even gauzy, voiles are better than no window coverings at all.
When you say no internal doors do you me a gorgeous open plan loft type of space or no internal doors yet as you are still renovating?
Can you use some relaxing essential oils in a diffuser, have lots of lamps in different parts of your home, things to make your space cozier and to ensure no dark corners.
Create a bedtime routine like you would for a young child; so when you're in for the evening first lock doors and windows etc. Bath or shower again with relaxing oils, products etc; be mindful of not eating too late or drinking alcohol ( can add to insomnia) and also maybe swerve anything creepy - films, books, podcasts etc, in fact just choose soothing TV, books etc.
If it's security that's an issue brands like Simpli Safe have comprehensive security systems for the whole home, definitely something I am thinking about getting.
If possible a cat or dog are great to have around.
If you're WFH, ensure you don't work from your bed/sleep area and stop completely by a certain time and do other stuff.
If you can't sleep, get back up, warm drink, good book, radio or chilled music and Mumsnet goes all night, always someone up!
I know I have suggested many very, very basic things, so hope it doesn't sound patronising, because I really can empathize, I remember the exact feeling of being fine home alone in the day and it feeling..... just different and so quiet at night. For me, getting a cat really made a difference and like I said getting used to a new home.

CombatBarbie · 09/09/2021 23:04

I still get like that now after 2yrs OP. Is there a fan you can put on in the night for background noise? Tried a weighted blanket?

Invisiblewoman1 · 10/09/2021 04:13

Thanks all! My blinds arrive on 14th September so not long. And no internal doors as I took them all off in the renovations and cannot afford to buy new ones yet.
Some great tips and ideas thank you. I find I am constantly checking if I have locked doors and Windows before bed whereas in the day I leave back door wide open and windows as I feel so safe. But even if I lock up and check it all at 6 I still have to do it before bed. Which drives me mad!
I’ve got new doors and Windows so I know it’s all safe and secure. I just don’t feel at home yet I think

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BarkingUpTheWrongRoseBush · 10/09/2021 04:59

Get a dog?

Bluntness100 · 10/09/2021 05:33

Can you put the doors back on till you can afford new ones?

Invisiblewoman1 · 10/09/2021 06:02

The doors were put in a skip 4 months ago unfortunately. Long before I realised my door frames were small so I would need custom sized doors which cost a fortune!
I think I will adjust but it’s going from a flat to a house is much bigger adjustment than I anticipated. I’ve lived in houses before but never alone. and this is my first house post divorce.

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Invisiblewoman1 · 10/09/2021 06:37

Also maybe doesn’t help that I’m still surrounded by boxes!

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