Last minute to delays to completing on first house

[Abs1992]

So fed up right now. I’m buying a house alone and should have been completing this week. The seller has moved out so the house is empty (she’s moved in with her partner while they wait for their new house to go through) but there’s a few paperwork type issues that the solicitor keeps uncovering that are probably easily sorted but taking time. And I just feel sooooo fed up with it all, I feel bad because I know I am very lucky to be able to buy at all but it’s just making me feel so unfocused and distracted at work and unsettled 24/7 like I just can’t relax. Just waiting. I know it’s not going to be long but I think it’s the control freak in me not knowing when it will be is stressing me out, if I knew it would be in 1 week I could relax more than I am now thinking it could be tomorrow or it could be next week. How can I chill the hell out and carry on living my life and not less this make me so stressed and miserable? I have depression which was bad a while ago but have been pretty good for a while after changing meds but this feels like it’s bringing it all back. Eating loads of rubbish too as this feels like the only way I can chill. Don’t want to do any of my normal exercise. Help!

I take it you haven't exchanged?
The system in this country seems made to cause extra stress. I exchanged on my house to complete two weeks later. I knew my ongoing purchase would not coincide so booked a hotel then holiday let. I moved out of my house on appointed day, handed over keys, packed off dogs and eldest son to friends, and and... we didn't complete til three days later! House was still mine but empty.
And then my ongoing purchase fell apart, so instead of two weeks in temporary housing it was 8 weeks - four holiday lets and three hotels.
It was anxiety making in the extreme.
But with my actual purchase I went from solicitor telling me still waiting for a search to come back at 10am to being ready to exchange four hours later! (We didn't but that's another thread). We did though and complete four days later.
You just have to steel yourself. Keep on top of solicitors and hope your movers can be flexible (I had to wait over a week for my movers after I collected keys). Then you'll be in and start decorating and it will soon all be a distant memory!

Quite usual unfortunately, and somehow made all the worse for the fact that no one else (solicitors/estate agents) ever seem that bothered.
We were supposed to exchange last week and had one hold up because our vendors ID checks hadn't been done at the start of the process and one didn't have a middle name on. The other delay was because for two days our solicitors couldn't get hold of our buyers solicitors to say "ok", despite everything being confirmed.

It's a horrid process and so much of it is out of an individual's control - so you just have to control what you can and before you know it you'll be surrounded by boxes in your new house!

I feel you. Should have exchanged multiple times and still waiting!

Most recent problems - buyer decided to change status of deposit on day of exchange! Next day, vendor hadn't supplied ID and our solicitors wouldn't answer phone!
Day 3 of trying this week!!!

I wouldn't care if we weren't about to loose our removals slot to someone else and want to complete nect tuesday so no time to find anyone else decent 🥴

its a stressful time xx