If your neighbours did a big house renovation...

[emeraldcity2000]

What little things did they do that made it easier on you?
We've just started and the dust and noise is making everyone a bit grouchy...
we've tried he be as considerate as possible in that we've delayed the work significantly so as not to do it when people we're working at home / homeschooling (not easy as it's a house in need of a lot of work and we have 2 small people ourselves plus it will cost us a lot more now). We've been through all the proper processes re party wall and shared all designs etc before submitting for planning to make sure no one was adversely impacted... and we specifically briefed the architect to make sure noones light was impacted by the side return design...
It was always going to be a large project for whoever took it on... but I still feel bad for the disturbance (today is drilling out concrete floors) .. is there anything your neighbours did so you didn't hate them forever?! We plan to live here long term and would love to get on!

PS, I can see, OP, from your post that you are being very careful and considerate and come across as nice neighbours so hopefully you'll get some insights in what to do to 'sweeten the pill'. However, my comments are intended to warn you against the strategy of disassociating yourself with the work and making your neighbours deal with the builders over any concerns. The builders will be taking instructions from you not your neighbour!

Bless you Op for being so considerate.

My neighbours started off by saying they wanted to make sure we weren't impacted too much and told us their plans, but 18 months further on they seem to have forgotten everything they said and got carried away with things.

They even attempted a landgrab which was swiftly rebuffed.

Our neighbours have done building work twice. We have a good relationship which helps massively. Lots of communication. We want to extend ourselves so have been flexible - allowed some scaffolding poles in our side, gave millions of parking favours, never complained about the noise.

Ask for parking favours, don’t assume. Every time. And particularly for your tradesmen. No issue with my neighbour parking on my drive when I’ve said yes but I do object to finding the electrician has helped himself and blocked me in.

Make sure you acknowledge the hassle. Give wine/chocolates/similar at the end. Be a good neighbour in return. Be generous if there is space in your skip.

I would not have said no to our neighbour paying for the end of build window clean instead of just booking it in for us, but I appreciate that may make me a CF. But it would have been a nice gesture.

Oh, and don’t expect people to sign a party wall agreement within 24 hours. They may want to take some advice (or even just ring up the builder/loft conversion company for a brief chat) before signing.