Moving regret

[Tirediam]

Hi all
I may be waaaaaay too early to be thinking like this but we moved almost 3 weeks ago and I so miss my old house and street and neighbours. Our new house is a dream, it’s beautiful but I just had to leave our old house as no room for me to WFH so was working from our dining area and it just felt a bit stale but it’s all I can think about. I just want to be back there … help! Is this normal? Our new house doesn’t feel like home at all, not one bit. We don’t have a sofa yet or bed as waiting for all new carpets to be put in. My toddler is teething and I’m just so stressed and I just miss the familiarity and coziness of my old house. Will this get better or will I be looking to move in a few months ?
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Hi OP sorry you're feeling this way, maybe once furniture and carpets are in place it'll feel more like home? The stress of toddler teething may also be amplifying how you feel too - hopefully once things settle down it'll feel much easier

It'll be fine once you've sorted the carpets and got all your furniture in.

I think that's normal. Wait till you've got your furnishings in and been there a while.

Definitely normal- our new house was my dream home when we viewed it, when we moved it it just didn’t feel like home. I HATED it, to the point where we got it valued, put it up for sale. It probably took a good 12 months for me to start liking it and now, 1.5 years on, I really like it. Still not love, but it’s hard not to compare to your old home which you knew! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, you have a lot going on.

Me again. 8 months on and I feel the same 😔 really want to move somewhere a lot cheaper and cosier. Don’t think husband does. Feel so anxious but just feel like I want to get out!

Happened to me when we moved - I'd be in bed every night thinking how I could get back to my old house - that lasted for well over a year. Now I'm glad we moved but it's something called 'buyer's regret' I believe.

I moved over six months ago and I still miss our old house. The new one is much bigger but it doesn’t feel like home yet. It’s normal I think, particularly if you were in your old house for a long time.

We’ve been in a year in June. If I still feel the same in July then I think I’ll need to move. We also took on a massive mortgage and I do regret that. I’d rather a smaller home, smaller mortgage and be able to afford a life ! x

This could be me writing this it’s exactly how I feel, I’m nearly two years in and like it less and less. Husband doesn’t to move he loves it, definite buyers regret from me. I thought it’d be great having more space and more central location, it isn’t. Would go back to old place in a heartbeat if I could

And yes we also took a much bigger mortgage and now especially after the last two years i’d rather spend money doing ‘things’ than on a house. I’m trying to take any kind of positive I can from it though in that at least we tried it, we’d never have known otherwise. Ours was a project which I thought I’d love, it’s nearly done and I just want to sell it

It does take a while to settle in a new home, we moved a year ago, a relocation and massive downsize for us, no regrets at all. I never even think about our old house, we lived there for 18 years and raised our family. I don’t miss our old house at all, it was too big, too much work, expensive to run. It was a lovely family home, and we enjoyed living there but I was ready to move, we are all really happy in our new city & home now, life is much easier. Life is too short not to be happy. Good luck OP.

Happy to say 10 months in I love it! I love the house, area, town. I love it. Still loads to decorate but my son just got into a great nursery as well. So, I’m happy. Phew! 💜😊

Well that had a good ending. I'm pleased for you.

The stress of moving our of your comfort zone and not feeling at home in a new property really can be uncomfortable. It definitely takes quite a while to settle.

Obviously some people do make a mistake and the move isn't right for them, but good to hear that everything is feeling good now for you.

We have a study but I usually sit in the living room at the bureau cabinet or at under dining table. I only use the study when dc are home. Find a happy place to make your work station.