Bought the wrong house

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About a year ago we viewed two houses, one £150k more than the other. I loved the more expensive one but it was out of our price range. Bought the cheaper one and loved it….until I’ve discovered the dearer one has just sold for £150k under asking! I’m now hating my house and all I can think of is how much I really wanted the more expensive one. I was able to rationalise it when I knew it was out of my price range but now I know it sold for the same price as the one I’m in I want to cry.
Now it had been on the market a while hence why I’m sure a lower offer was accepted but I’m kicking myself for not even trying to offer lower at the time. I feel it’s almost a reflection of our passiveness in life, we are not go getters. In fact instead of haggling we will often end up paying more!!
Help me to fall back in love with my house and get over my resentment at not getting the other house at a great price!

I live by the mantra that I made the right choice at the time I made it. Hindsight doesn't help

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

did someone die in it? I think yes

Victorian child ghost.

@Ruralbliss I talked DH out of buying some bitcoin at around that time. I thought it sounded like a scam 😬

Some fabulously helpful responses here that have made me see sense!

I often try to have the same attitude as @Ruralbliss. If I'm driving and someone cuts me up or there's a traffic jam, I just think it's the universe's way of slowing me down and maybe avoiding something worse. It melts away the anger.

There was a house we had an offer accepted on but DH wanted to pull out a day after the offer was accepted because he felt it was slightly too much and there were a few things he didn't like such as the massive hedge all the way around the perimeter that he didn't fancy the upkeep of. We ended up with a house just down the road and I often look at the missed house with envy. But it wasn't meant for us. Maybe having the larger mortgage would have put extra stress on our marriage? Who knows?

At a time when prices have been rocketing, 150 under sounds like an awfully high amount, though it depends on the absolute price- 150 under on a 2m house is not in the same league as 150 under on a 450 house. Either it was wildly overpriced, in which case I'd assume you'd have known at the time and tried a lower offer, or there is something seriously up with it- you can sort out a lot of problems with houses for a lot less than 150K. Or maybe a huge planning/neighbour issue has come up close by?
We lost a lovely Edwardian house I loved due to the sellers not accepting our lowered offer, lowered because of significant problems in the survey. The very ordinary (by comparison) 60s house we bought in a hurry instead in a place I had said I never wanted to live turned out to be a home we grew to love and spent over 30 happy years in. It worked out better for us than the other house would have.
I think in some ways if you go with the flow, then you and the house you get grow and change together. You say you loved the house- so it was right for you. The other one may have been too- or it may not.
(Your poor house, you loved it, hopefully it loved you back, and now you spurn it because of something it can't help. Try to remember why you loved it, and maybe you can love it again. It may sound daft, but I think houses have personalities. Our current one has been hard to love at times, but it's had a sad life in recent years before we came, so I am being patient and kind with it, and I think it is coming round to trust us. A passing neighbour said it was nice to see the house being woken up again....I think in the end we'll be very happy here too.)

Yes, I know, I still sometimes walk past the house we offered on then withdrew the offer the next day. It was £675k, and the one we bought was £484k . It was 3 bedroom detached decent sized garden. And done, nothing needed doing.

Now in a 5 bed semi, smaller plot, and doing about £150k worth of work on it….we may not have made the right choice! . But it’s the choice we made. The up front 675 scared me, the 3 small bedrooms looked like it would be hard to sell…

I agree that there is something seriously wrong with it. And if so at best you wouldn't get a mortgage and at worst you'd be stuck with all the problems.

I think you dodged a bullet.

Any chance you could post a link, OP??