I want to move house ... husband doesnt :/

[Jellybellymoo]

So we sold our 2 bed semi detatched and moved into a lovely 3 bed detatched house, albeit with a slightly smaller garden than out last house, but I can't grow to love it!
When we viewed it, it seemed perfect, but living here has felt so different.
We are in a cul de sac and I feel like everyone knows each other business, parking is a bit of a nightmare too.
The main thing bothering me is that it is literally 1 house outside of our DCs school catchment area (we were reassured when we brought the house by the headteacher that we would have no issues getting DC 2 in). However since moving in we have met other parents who have struggled to get their kids in to our preferred school and now I feel ridiculously stupid for believing it would all be fine!!
We managed to get DC2 in to start for September but it is an infant/junior school and we need to reapply for the junior application when they go up to it and I'm so worried there may be a chance they don't get in which I feel is a huge risk to take.
It doesn't help that I am a compulsive worrier and stress about things to the extreme!
Also most of my family and friends live near our old house and I miss being about to walk round to them and just generally miss the area even though we're only 1 mile up the road!
DH is really settled here and loves it, he said he will move if I am unhappy, but he would prefer to stay. I feel so guilty and stressed about the whole situation ... am I being irrational? We only moved in October 2020 so only been here 10 months but it has not felt like home from the first week of moving in, I feel so stupid and like we made a huge mistake 🤦🏼‍♀️ ... HELP!

Hi,
It sounds like you have the house blues here which I suspect is more prevalent when people move in Winter having viewed in summer.
My recommendation is twofold:

• get a copy of the schools admissions criteria. If siblings are before distance, you have nothing to worry about. If distance is above siblings, then check how far offers were made last year. Don't listen to playground gossip on this.
• get blinds on the front of your house (day and night ones are great) and block out the cul-de-sac.

Your friends and family are only ONE MILE away so you can still walk or it's a short drive/cycle.

Presuming there is no serious worry about the school you need to give it 2 years at least and then decide.

I'm guessing this will all change once your DS starts school. I would suggest you join or start a FB group for children starting in September and over the summer arrange meet ups through this.

So tell him you’re unhappy and want to move. He’s already agreed to it.

You main concern seems to be admissions criteria. For my school kids going to junior school already at linked infants are first priority so your situation would be fine. Also siblings always get priority as long as you’re still within 2 miles. If you’re unsure put a post on primary education board. Experts on there can help. Would you like the house if you were sure you’d get into juniors from there?

Hi new house - I have checked the admission criteria, catchment children are at the top of the list followed by out of catchment with sibling so they are 3rd in line for a place if that makes sense. The junior school do have a larger capacity intake and I have checked the admissions data for the last 5 years and no children have been refused a place there. Am I just being totally erratic?
I have got blinds for the front of the house funnily enough which has made a difference.

I guess I'm just iverly worrying about the school issue, I basically met a couple of people who said they know others that have had issues getting their kids into into school, which made me panic as I was told there would be no issue!

I feel guilty for my husband as he has been renovating the house as it was a but of a doer upper, now I'm suggesting moving! Bless him as much as he agreed to, doesn't make me feel any better!

I appreciate your advice so thank you. Xx

Hi Ariela - I already know a lot of the mums at the school as my second son attends the local pre school, so that's not so much of an issue. He has been accepted a place at the school for year R in September, I guess I'm just worried thinking ahead to junior school applications as I would hate for their school to change at that stage! X

Dino - I have told him I want to move, but I'm trying to figure out if there is any way around staying as I know he would prefer to stay where we are. I guess I'm asking advice to determine if I'm just being completely irrational tonworry about them getting into the linked school! X

Ghoul - I think I probably would like the house more if it wasn't for the school issue and would most likely stay where we are. We only live 0.6miles from the school so walking distance.
There is 90 children per year at the infants and 96 children at the juniors so essentially there is 6 more places than required to accommodate all children from the infants. My only concern is that catchment children are still priority over linked infants. But where they have a higher capacity is there any need to worry? I know there are other children in my sons year group that also live out of catchment so must be a low birth year perhaps? Xx