2 bed house, can I have 2nd DC?

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YellsiBabs · 15/06/2021 10:03

I really love our home, we bought it as a project and we’re nearly at the end of our renovations. It has 2 bedrooms upstairs (top floor), ours and our DS’s. On the middle floor we have a grown up lounge and a family bathroom.
Basement is kitchen/diner/reception space.
We really want to expand our family but also not ready to move yet. DS was in with us until 8 months, so if new baby is the same then timings wise we have how long it takes to conceive (quick with DS) + 9 months + possibly 8 months until new baby is ready to go into his/her own room (which we don’t have). I love the idea of siblings sharing a bedroom (I did and loved it, bunk beds… fun!!) but I wouldn’t want a young baby waking my DS in the night when he has busy days at Pre-school etc.

What to do? Im really torn. I look in Rightmove and there’s just nothing I like within our budget. We put so much into our current home, I don’t feel ready to leave it yet.

The adult lounge on middle floor, before anyone suggests this as a 3rd bedroom (as the property was marketed as) this is next to the front door, I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable or secure putting my young DS in there, but it’s not a big enough room for a bedroom for DH & I. (Plus then DS would have our big master bedroom with en-suite).

Thanks for advise

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 15/06/2021 10:06

I would keep the baby in with me until he was sleeping through the night and then he could share with his sibling.

beggingforsleep · 15/06/2021 10:07

We kept our DS in our room till he was 13 months as we were living with family for a bit. Not ideal at the time but I've forgotten all about it now! Then when we moved he shared a room with our DD for a bit while we finished his room. Surprisingly she didn't wake up when he did, kids are quite heavy sleepers. Getting them to sleep was more of the issue but once asleep all fine.

StampDutyDeadlineHeadache · 15/06/2021 10:16

Lots of people with more bedrooms have kids share anyway for various reasons, can be easier to get both to bed if you’re doing bedtime solo being one of them. I wouldn’t worry about this at all and would go ahead and ttc if you’re happy in your current home.

AfternoonToffee · 15/06/2021 10:27

Of course you can have a second DC, you are in a 3 bed, you are just choosing not to use the 3rd as a bedroom. Many people have two young children in a room together and it works out fine.

Didicat · 15/06/2021 10:55

Yes you definitely can, whether you are ready is a different question, you have a 2/3 bed, kids like to share. It is your own construct in your head that is saying no.

How bigger gap between kids would you like?

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YellsiBabs · 15/06/2021 10:58

Thanks everyone, this is really reassuring. I was thinking it would be really impractical but I’m so excited at the thought of going for it.

DS is 21 months now, so age gap could be anything from 2.5 years.

DS started sleeping through the night consistently from about 11 months.

Any advice for getting them both down for the night in the same bedroom? (Appreciate this isn’t the Parenting chat .. can move there!)

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stormelf · 15/06/2021 11:05

I have a three bed house with 2 DC (currently pregnant with my third). My Ds stayed in with us until he was 7 months old and sleeping a bit better before moving into a room with my dd who was 2 at the time. They love sharing a room and currently sleep in the box room together. Ds still wakes in the night (18 months old) but never disturbs my dd even if I go in there and settle her brother.

The plan is for the two to continue sharing their small bedroom until baby three is old enough to move in with them and then I'll move all three into the larger spare room.

When they decide they no longer want to share then I will separate them although as it is only a three bed house two children of the same sex will continue sharing (unless we convert the third reception room downstairs into another bedroom)

mistermagpie · 15/06/2021 12:44

I've got a very small three bed house (new build, trust me it's tiny!) and have three children.

I've got two boys who share in bunk beds and my daughter has a teeny box room with her cot in it.

It will be fine, it does them no harm to share while they are little and the baby will be in your room for up to a year anyway. I wouldn't let it put me off.

We will aim to move for when my eldest starts high school but he's only 5 now so sharing a room suits him, he and his brother love it.

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