Housing Dilemma

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Hi just wondering if anyone can give an outside perspective on how we resolve our total lack of space.

I bought my council property in Feb. Its a spacious 2 bed terraced house in a nice area in close proximity to good schools and was my only means of being able to own a property. I have 2 teenage kids sharing a room but my plan was always to put an extension in downstairs to reconfigure the lay out and create a further bedroom for my son.

The week before I completed I found out I am pregnant which is amazing news as we didn't think it was possible. We are really excited about this but a little worried about what we do with the house situation. My boyfriend is intending to move in here and we will also have the baby in our room with us so we are going to be packed in like sardines. He has so much stuff including a drum kit (but that is a whole other thread)
My plan was to continue with the extension plans and maybe move somewhere bigger in years to come but everyone is telling me I am mad to spend that kind of money on the house and go through the upheaval, only to move. I know it will add considerable value to the house and they always sell as soon as they come on the market in my street.

If I sell my house and buy something with DP we will lose a lot of money as i was given a discount for being a council tenant.
I payed £175k for my house and a 4 bed in this area is about £400k so I don't think we could really afford the jump and I don't want to mortgage myself to the eyeballs. I love my DP very much and don't foresee us splitting up but I always keep it in the back of my mind as my ex left me with thousands in debt. I can afford this house should the worst ever happen.

I am in the process of getting quotes from architects for the work we would like done so I am slightly oblivious to how much this is all going to cost, but DP is going to help pay for this. He earns a lot more than me and with some overtime we can put down a good chunk of money in cash and take the rest out in a loan.
I just have this nagging doubt in the back of my head that it still won't be big enough.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I personally think your dd is getting shafted if you put YOUR baby in with her.

You want to move your new bf in and have his child, great, but you adults should be making the sacrifices and losing your good nights sleep, not your poor DD!

Either split the bedrooms up to create an extra room or have the baby in with you permanently until the 5 years are up.

The drum kit can FO - not a priority now!
Please don't spend your money building a room for your bf hobbies, let's just see if he's a keeper first?

Do absolutely nothing to begin with.

Your boyfriend moves in (minus the drum kit), you have the baby and see how things unfold from there. The last thing you want is for him to help pay for an extension and then be able to claim an equitable interest in your home if you split up. Gong from single guy to father of newborn and step dad of two (including one with special needs) is a big deal.

My comments are true not nasty

Mentally prepare for new baby being in with you for a few years.

Continue with extension plans, and then you move to the large partitioned bedroom - you and DP on one side, baby on the other. Change where the partition is if necessary. Teenagers have the extension room and your current room (I assume this is smaller, anyway).

Where does DP currently live? How will he be contributing to household finances?

Thanks for the advice, its really useful and has made me feel a lot more confident in my plans to extend. I shall wait to hear back from the Architects. Happy to keep the baby in with us for a long as needed. DP suggested we also sit down with the kids and ask them what they actually want, they're very excited about the baby but we don't want them to feel pushed out.

@rwalker seriously, just go away.

Apologies if i touched a nerve and offended anyone guess we all have a different moral compass anse standards of whats right and wrong

Maybe. But are your comments in any way relevant to the discussion?

As others have said, there are plenty of ways of dividing up bedrooms to create an extra space. Here's an example.

By the way, why is it your DD that has to share and not your DS? (unless you already know the sex of DC3)