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Downsizing from detached to terraced

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downsizing · 21/02/2021 13:19

We’re in the process of downsizing from a large 5 bed detached house to a mid terrace 1960’s townhouse that will see us become mortgage free.

I’m starting to worry we won’t be able to cope with the change particularly as we have 2 teenage DS’s coming with us.

Looking to see if anyone has positive experiences of a similar move.

OP posts:
BeakyWinder · 22/02/2021 08:10

My last terrace was horrendous, I could here everything, talking, tv, shagging, even him plugging things in on the shared wall. Both sides had babies within a few months of eachother and it really affected my sleep and mental health. I couldn't sleep the first few nights in my new house because it was silent.. bliss.

downsizing · 22/02/2021 08:11

The rooms are surprisingly large so losing a bit of space wouldn’t be an issue.

It’s a 1960’s build not sure if that is a good or bad thing

OP posts:
Atalune · 22/02/2021 08:13

I think it will be fine! Enjoy your mortgage free move.

AOwlAOwlAOwl · 22/02/2021 08:15

I don't think it's a given that you will hear your neighbours. We're in a Victorian mid terrace, we never hear a peep from one side and there are 5 people living there. Other side is divided into two flats and I only hear them when they have their music on top volume or they are having a screaming row with their teen daughter (almost never). I think some of it is construction and some of it is the kind of people you live next to.

Hadenough21 · 22/02/2021 08:17

I’m in a detached now but used to live in a mid terrace. The neighbour noise nearly drove me insane! They were nice people but oh my god I could hear every time they stomped up the stairs, could hear them making their dinner, banging around on an evening when I was in bed, arguing, playing music... it really affected my mental health but I am someone who likes and needs quiet. It was the fact that it was so out of my control as well, I was on edge all the time waiting for the noise to start. I wouldn’t go back now unless I absolutely had to.

Sleepingdogs12 · 22/02/2021 08:19

I am another one who personally wouldn't choose to move back to a semi or terraced house . I was so aware of our noise (dog,children, me shouting ) it was such a relief to not have to think about this. How much noise you'll hear depends on the room layout, who is next door , type of construction, how sensitive you are to noise etc etc. Hopefully it will be fine and the positives will outweigh the negatives. Millions of people live in attached hoises and have good neighbours .

gurglebelly · 22/02/2021 08:24

Don't forget it's not just the impact of neighbours on you, but yours on them. Coming from a detached you will have got used to being able to make a certain amount of noise without affecting anyone

Depending on how noisy your family are (do you have any stair stompers, or people that like to play on games consoles until late at night shouting into headsets?) you may find complaints coming your way to have to deal with, which can be quite stressful

userxx · 22/02/2021 08:26

My neighbours are noisy but it doesn't really bother me to be honest, I'm quite a laid back person and things just don't really get to me. Obviously booming music at 3am would be a different story!! My boyfriend gets pissed off, always commenting on how loud they are 🤷‍♂️

AlowYew · 22/02/2021 08:28

I hope it'll be okay

I wouldn't be able to do it.

Neighbours noise is the absolute pits

Hate it.

Good luck op

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 22/02/2021 08:33

If it’s a semi, it depends how the houses are laid out. Some layouts will be noisier than others. In houses like this, the houses only share party wall on rooms that are (mostly) secondary rooms. The master bedroom, main living room and dining room are on the far side of the house, away from the shared wall. Obviously in a terrace there isn’t that option with neighbours on both sides. Is a semi or end of terrace with a smarter layout (main rooms away from party wall) an option?

Downsizing from detached to terraced
RestingPandaFace · 22/02/2021 08:43

It is so dependent on the house, we are in a 15 year old semi and almost never hear next door. The odd stair stomp and bit of diy but honestly it’s maybe 2/3 times a week that we are even aware of them. Their DC play drums and we can watch TV through it happily.

Before that we were in a 60’s semi and never heard a peep.

RevolutionRadio · 22/02/2021 08:48

I wouldn't go back to being attached to neighbours unless I really had to.

I moved out of the terrace I lived in because of neighbours. One side I never heard, the other side was rented. All fine when I first moved in, then they moved out and there was a string of the noisiest people I've ever heard.

It caused my own health issues to get worse probably through lack of sleep. If we hadn't of moved to out new house when we did, I'd have gone to stay with family until it sold.

rawalpindithelabrador · 22/02/2021 08:51

I'd rather be mortgaged to the hilt than live in another terrace or semi again. Fucking neighbours! I have insomnia and work odd hours, it's blissful to be able to run the food processor in the middle of the night, or the washing machine, the hoover, to exercise loudly, take a shower or bath.

Never hearing someone's bass coming through the wall or be privvy to their parties right outside the window.

I think you're crazy.

Guineapigsarepigs · 22/02/2021 08:52

It really depends on the house. I have lived in many houses where noise wasn't a problem. In this economic climate I would prioritise being mortgage free. Lucky you!

Ellpellwood · 22/02/2021 08:53

It does depend on the house, and also who is most likely to live in a terrace in your town. I live second from left in a row of 4 2013 townhouses and we never hear anything, but one side is a single man in his 40s with a lodger and the other side is an older student and his girlfriend who works full time. They rent. Before that it was a single woman.

3 bed detached houses are relatively cheap here so there are few children on my road - in fact we're probably the "noisy" ones with one toddler!

Snog · 22/02/2021 08:53

I think a lot depends on how good your hearing is!
My friend hears everything her neighbours do and always knows which room they are in. My hearing isn't as good as hers and I very rarely hear our neighbours but dd and DH hear them more often.

JammyDozen · 22/02/2021 09:04

Long post, sorry - this post really struck me as I’m planning to go the other way and sell a semi I love to take on a bigger mortgage for a detached I almost certainly won’t like as much. Due to neighbour noise.

To boil it all down, you really need to consider how much noise could bother you, because it does vary from person to person, as well as the construction and layout of the property.

Like other posters, I’m no longer happy with terraced and semi-detached properties. Not because I expect silence - lived in mid-terraces before and loved it, despite hearing some neighbour noise - and would happily live in a flat if I had quiet neighbours, but because I’m now finding I can’t tolerate antisocial noise. My MH has been badly hit by poor sleep due to slamming fire doors from next door at all hours. A noise earplugs don’t help with btw. When I read threads on here about neighbours, I wonder what my problem is as so many people have much worse! Have also been to the council about previous occupants of the same house - which worries me sick when I think about disclosing it when we (try to) sell. Different noise (and other) issues then.

I think you need to consider what it would be like if you did have noisy neighbours. Are you pretty laidback? People have different tolerances for noises and the different noises they hate - I could better tolerate living under a flight path than yelling and whooping in the middle of the night, for example (previous neighbour in this house). Would you be happy to make sacrifices like moving bedrooms, etc.?

Then construction. How thick are the walls? What is the internal layout? I live in a Victorian semi with four floors - tall and thin, and few rooms don’t have the party wall, which conducts sound the entire height of the building. If someone slams the lounge door you can hear it quite clearly in the attic. Slam a bedroom door and I can feel it. Tv noises travel one floor. I realise now the wall is single brick, which just isn’t enough.

Soundproofing - we looked into this, but were put off for two reasons: losing inches in the rooms (self-explanatory) and not knowing how far to go. If you read about this at all, you soon realise that soundproofing a single wall is not considered sufficient if you really need to block sound. That needs work on floor, ceilings, etc. I didn’t want to spend so much money if it wasn’t necessary, but nor did I want to spend ££ on sou;dpriofing s wall to find it didn’t achieve very much. Pretty sure the booming door issue I have wouldn’t be solved with a one-wall, one-room solution. If you’re seriously thinking now that you might do this if there is a neighbour issue, I’d do some research and try to find people who’ve have different types fitted to find out what it has achieved for them.

Smells come through too. Weed and a really nasty meat smell in this case!

This isn’t to put you off. As I say, I was very happy in my previous places, all terraced and exposed to some noise. It’s being at the mercy of neighbours that is the problem as pps have said.

MrsToadlike · 22/02/2021 09:10

I'm watching this with interest as we've recently done the opposite. We moved a couple offrom a mid-terrace -

TedMullins · 22/02/2021 09:10

How the other half live 😂😂😂 some of these replies are hilarious to me. If you want another point of view, I have only ever lived in properties attached to the neighbours having grown up in a terrace then lived in a multitude of shared houses and flats as a young adult, then onto a flat of my own. In all my 32 years, I’ve only ever had one noise issue and that was with specific neighbours who went out of their way to be a nuisance (swearing and arguing when asked to turn music down). Thankfully, they moved out, but I can hand on heart say that I’ve never had my mental health compromised by hearing neighbours’ TV, hoover, footsteps or the occasional muffled conversation.

JammyDozen · 22/02/2021 09:13

@BalladOfBarryAndFreda

If it’s a semi, it depends how the houses are laid out. Some layouts will be noisier than others. In houses like this, the houses only share party wall on rooms that are (mostly) secondary rooms. The master bedroom, main living room and dining room are on the far side of the house, away from the shared wall. Obviously in a terrace there isn’t that option with neighbours on both sides. Is a semi or end of terrace with a smarter layout (main rooms away from party wall) an option?
Yes, this is a really good point. I actually would consider a semi if the main rooms (lounge, main bedrooms) didn’t share the party wall. In our case, the lounge does not (can still hear doors slamming, but easier to ignore), but the main bedroom and attic both span the full width of the house. Most older houses here have a similar layout unless the front bedroom has been divided in some way.
Ellpellwood · 22/02/2021 09:13

Thankfully, they moved out, but I can hand on heart say that I’ve never had my mental health compromised by hearing neighbours’ TV, hoover, footsteps or the occasional muffled conversation.

I feel like this too - pre-pandemic DH was away for a few days every other month and I found the noise quite comforting! I grew up in a creaky detached house on a windy hill. When my parents went away in my late teens it was so creepy I stayed with my friend down the road.

MrsToadlike · 22/02/2021 09:14

Posted too soon! We moved from a mid-terrace to a detached property. We left behind the lack of privacy and noise that a mid-terrace entailed (and we had friendly and quiet neighbours too!). We love our detached for the peace and privacy it brings. However, it's more time-consuming to maintain, clean and heat. Our dream for downsizing is a tiny detached house in a decent sized plot, to try and give us the best of both worlds, but they are quite rare where we are.

OP I am very jealous about you being mortgage free with the move! Re: your teens, as a teenager I grew up in a mid-terrace 2-up 2-down house, and I loved it! It's the people in the house not the house itself that counts. Good luck with your move

Hadenough21 · 22/02/2021 09:19

@TedMullins bit unfair to make fun of people who have mentioned their mental health. The fact it’s been mentioned a few times means it’s obviously hard for people to live with constant noise that they can’t control. Maybe you’ve been lucky with your neighbours. Mine used to blast music through the walls during the day when I was at home with a newborn and a toddler. So yes it did affect my mental health. Glad it’s amusing to you!

MyDcAreMarvel · 22/02/2021 09:28

I live in a terrace but never hear any neighbours noise, it was built in the 1930’s.

JammyDozen · 22/02/2021 09:32

@TedMullins

How the other half live 😂😂😂 some of these replies are hilarious to me. If you want another point of view, I have only ever lived in properties attached to the neighbours having grown up in a terrace then lived in a multitude of shared houses and flats as a young adult, then onto a flat of my own. In all my 32 years, I’ve only ever had one noise issue and that was with specific neighbours who went out of their way to be a nuisance (swearing and arguing when asked to turn music down). Thankfully, they moved out, but I can hand on heart say that I’ve never had my mental health compromised by hearing neighbours’ TV, hoover, footsteps or the occasional muffled conversation.
My mental health has never been affected by the things you mention either. And when I was 32 I too had had just one fleeting bad neighbour experience. Not a big deal. In my late 30s I moved to my present house - spent a lot of money doing so - and MH is suffering now due to disturbance.

The point is that it’s a lottery when you share walls with people.

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