@Itscoldouthere yes, we saw that about grants at some point. I can't remember why not, but essentially we weren't eligible unfortunately. I think that is our frustration too, our conservation officer seems very OTT and there seems to be no consistency. The decisions are all very subjective.
@Wonderwalk yes, I can definitely see what you mean. I think the developer who previously owned it tried that route and were obviously unsuccessful. There are many reasons we bought the property - it's in my partners childhood village, we want an old, characterful home, refurbished equivalent ones would have cost £30k+ in stamp duty which felt like money down the drain, even refurbished ones were never exactly as we'd have liked (wrong kitchen, wrong location, small garden etc) so would have required further money spent on them, this gave us the opportunity to put our own stamp on it from the start etc. It being listed was a compromise really.
@Handsnotwands no, we need specialists for the building work either way. Our issue is the time this is all taking (they're insanely slow and lockdown has made them even slower) plus, the multiple specialist they want us to involved who are extortionate. If it weren't for the listed building process we'd be nearly complete with the work by now, which would reduce our mortgage cost in the meantime. The building would also be in a better condition, so building work would cost less etc.
@Littlecaf I think the problem is that the really expensive stuff is structural or specialist and beyond us. We could probably do some painting later though! Thanks for the advice re. builders etc.
@timetochangeyourlife it is grade 2 listed. This is all good advice for the future, but for now we know we definitely need permission.
@StanfordPines it does make you wonder then if their role kind of defeats the object!
Thank you all. We'll speak to our planner, but its seeming delisting won't help our cause either. Was worth a try!