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Moving house fear - help!

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Reluctanttomove · 08/12/2020 09:47

Is it normal to be absolutely petrified on moving day, and not feel excited at all? I'm sat in the spare room with our cat trying to keep her calm and stop myself crying at the same time Grin If anyone has felt the same and it all ended up ok then would love to hear from you...

I've only lived here a few years but it is the first place I've lived with my partner (he bought the house before we met) so there are so many happy memories here and I love the house, the area, the neighbours etc. We are moving to a bigger house for more space to start a family but I feel like we don't need that much space at the moment, and the area is very different to where we are now, and it is on a busier road. I'm just so worried we've made the wrong call and will be stuck there if the market crashes. Does anyone else worry this much?!

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GlumyGloomer · 08/12/2020 10:07

Yep, hate moving with a passion. First time the new neighbours saw me I'd just burst into tears because it was such an awful day. One year on I actually really like the house and the area, even though the house still needs a lot of work.
Good luck @Reluctanttomove, it'll be alright in time.

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Reluctanttomove · 08/12/2020 10:13

@GlumyGloomer thank you, it is really good to know that you're happy there now. I'm sure I'll end up doing the same with our new neighbours, have already cried saying goodbye to the old ones!

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user1471538283 · 08/12/2020 18:39

It's so stressful and I think you dont know until you know. My telling point was moving in and it didn't feel exciting at all. Whereas prior to that and after it it felt like being on holiday.

But I hope you move in and get that holiday feeling!

BasiliskStare · 08/12/2020 19:33

@Reluctanttomove - If my experience is anything to go by - I had - shall we say- dust in my eye when we moved from house where DS was born to new house - hated new house for a while . It will not surprise you to know had a tear in my eye when left new house and into this one. Thought this one might have been a mistake - I love it know ( despite all compromises. )

I just think moving is a big thing - especially when certain life things have happened in said house _ don't panic & just keep breathing & I bet you will love the new house . I think it is a relatively normal feeling

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Reluctanttomove · 08/12/2020 20:04

@user1471538283 @BasiliskStare Thank you so much for your replies, it is good to know that it isn't just me and that you guys have come through the other side and enjoyed the houses! I don't think it hit me how stressful it would be until the very last minute, which is silly because everyone always says how stressful it is. Have got in now and don't feel any better, the road is worse than I remembered and house needs more work too, but going to try and see it as a short term project that hopefully we can sell on in a couple of years without losing money, fingers crossed prices don't fall too much in the meantime!

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BasiliskStare · 09/12/2020 12:10

@Reluctanttomove - I could have written your post - down to the road / work to do . I actually spoke to the estate agent a week later about selling the house. Honestly , I ended up loving the house and I still miss it now. Just keep going & if you seriously hate the house in a few years time I am sure you will be able to move , but , & I can't promise , I bet a shilling to a pound of oranges - if you just don't panic and keep going - you will love the house, especially , if you have a family there. You are still there with your Dp - I bet you look back and laugh about this time.

I wish you all the best - and honestly - don't panic. Just give it a bit of time. & if it ends up being a short term project - it isn't the end of the world - but - give it a try. I thought the same and I was so sad to leave, but things move on. I now love this house too - having had enormous buyer's regret about it initially

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Reluctanttomove · 09/12/2020 19:36

@BasiliskStare Thank you, you have no idea how much it helps to hear you have got through this (although sorry that you did have to go through it!) I feel like a complete brat being so down about having a bigger house to live in Blush But it does feel like I am panicking you're right, need to remember to breathe! Thanks again for your support Flowers

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Salome61 · 09/12/2020 22:46

Big hugs, it is scary but it's a new beginning,good luck. I hope you have nice weather for moving day. Do keep your cat in for at least six weeks in one room initially so he/she can feel secure and get to know the new house 'noises'. Lidl have the feliway type 'calming' diffuser for cats at the moment for £9, I pay a lot more at the vets.

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Reluctanttomove · 12/12/2020 22:14

@Salome61 thank you, we did get some diffusers which hopefully helped her a bit. She seems to be settling better than me now Grin

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