How do you convince partner to move?

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Our house and just gone on the market and we've had 3 over asking price offers in one day. Very fortunate.

DH only wants to move to a house that's done up. I love a renovation project and saw the potential of our current home. I planned out the whole design and it's paid off evidently.

I've seen another house I love and can see so much potential. DH is not keen on moving let alone renovation.

How do we reach a compromise ?

Following because we have reached an impasse too.
My DH also wants a "done" house but he also doesn't want to spend the money to get it 🤷🏻‍♀️ He turns down all the doer- uppers which will be great after a bit of work (and ££) and declares all the done ones too expensive.
We have seen a house which would be amazing - it is "done" in terms of extension and kitchens and bathrooms but needs a bit of decorating plus new carpets (usual wear and tear) which he says is going to cost too much and it is already at the top of our budget.
Can't win.

Haha, glad I'm not the only one in the same boat. I've no idea what I can say to get him on the same page. Sigh 😔

How did you convince him to go on the market if he doesn’t even want to move? Or did he not really want to?

Did he find the previous renovation very stressful?

Are you prepared to compromise- it sounds like you want two things, moving and a project, he wants neither, so moving to a done up house seems like an option to meet in the middle?

It's hard, I fall in love with so many houses - I can see so many ways to do them up.

My husband always likes houses in the bracket above the one we can actually afford...

I have to wait for him to fall in love with a house really. Super annoying!

Emotional blackmail.

@minipie he doesn't want to move at all . I convinced him to move because of schools. But the done up houses near good schools are at the top of our price range. In a covid environment houses maxing our budget isn't sensible.

@GiraffeNecked

Emotional blackmail.

lol I'm going to try that, plus sexual manipulation 😂

If you want to move for schools maybe start helping him research the local schools compared to in the target area. Look for any reports on drugs and bullying in local school. They are of course everywhere but selective searching might help.

Ah you see we need to move for space, I think he just doesn't want the hassle of selling and buying. I have done everything so far - however he is now refusing to even view houses now because our buyer has agreed to rent our house back to us for 6 months.

He says he will look once the money is in our bank account.... which is really frustrating because the last house we saw really is perfect in so many ways.
He thinks he is going to "game" the market by waiting (but what I actually think is that prices may fall but that will mean less people selling and we will just be spending money on rent and potentially having to move out without finding somewhere else).

So you’re being stubborn about spending less money and he’s being stubborn about not wanting a project?

You could sit down, listen to each other’s concerns and work out a compromise.

For us - he wants a done house for the price of a doer-upper. I am happy with either, I just want more space - I have already spent a week entertaining the DC in a kitchen diner and constantly being told by DH to keep them quiet because he is working in the next room. I cannot do this much more.

I think he has already compromised by selling the house when he doesn't want to move. Sounds like you've already done a renovation project so maybe its your turn to compromise and move to a 'ready to go' home