House Moving Wobbles

[AnneHughes]

Hi All,
Im new here so bare with me.

DH & I have just Sale Agreed on a new property, just outside quite a large town. The house is stunning, large, newish build and in a beautiful setting in the country.

The problem is, I feel like vomiting every time I think about it. Its everything I ever wanted and is a really great area for kids and pets but I cant help getting the wobbles. We are leaving our current house in the city where we lived for the last 15 years. This is genuinely a great move but the anxiety is almost crippling.

Anyone else ever feel like this, is it normal? How did things work out for you?
Thanks so much.

Sounds perfectly normal. It's a massive change - most people will have a wobble. I managed it by thinking - what's the worst that could happen. In our case it was we'd hate it and have to move again.

But also tried to work out what it was I'd hate and didn't find anything that wasn't fixable or a reasonable compromise balanced against good stuff.

so...I was worried about road noise at new house but balanced that against the fact that we'd have off road parking.

I figured that we were buying a very saleable house, if we moved again it would sell easily and we'd find something else.

My biggest worry was that DH would hate it as it was his house we'd sold to buy it - his house that was, as far as he was concerned, absolutely fine! Luckily he loves the new house, the extra space, the view....

This sounds very normal! We've been going back and forth on a decision to move or stay for a while now. When we bought this house, we thought we'd only be here a couple of years. Fast forward 14 years and we're still here so I can understand the anxiety of leaving behind what you know. It sounds like the new house is going to be lovely and in a great location for you so allow yourself to think about the positives and imagine yourself there, but don't be hard on yourself about the nerves, its a big change for you. Good Luck!

I am totally with you here. We exchanged today on a 'forever home' which I should be jumping up and down about. But I'm sad to leave our present home as it was our first home together, we brought both our children home from hospital to this house and we've made great friends with our elderly neighbours.
I have moments where I look around and think I can't leave it but then I slap myself in the face and think about the space the children will have the better schools and community. It's so hard but until I'm in the new house I don't think these feelings will go.

I think it is perfectly reasonable and I pondered and dithered about many aspects of our house purchase. I used to look on right move and wonder if we had done the right thing.

Currently doing the house up before we move in and I love it.

We're moving (fingers crossed...) in a few weeks and I'm already starting to feel sad about leaving our current house.

I love our home, we had our wedding reception in the garden, brought our daughter home from hospital to a room we decorated for her. It's a happy home, and I think I'm worried that our new home will take a while to feel like ours.

When we moved I ended up covered in a stress rash. I was scaly and red all the way from the neck down, my hands were especially bad. It had gone within two weeks of moving in!
I’m sure you’ll love your new home and wonder what you were so worried about, even if it feels like a big move now.

I think house moves have been researched to be up there amongst the most stressful events in life. So it sounds like a perfectly normal reaction given that you’d been in your current place for so long.

You are all so wonderful for responding. Im sure it will be fine in the end but I cant help having the colly wobbles. What should have been a real joy turned into a feeling of overwhelment and panic.