So I’m feeling very angry and upset with this whole situation now.
Been house hunting for a couple of months now, every time we’ve viewed a house we have agreed on whether we like it or not.
We’ve been looking around 3 areas. After seeing around 30 properties got more of an idea of what we like. We ruled out having a box room as second bedroom, be close to a train station, drive for a car (we have 2 cars but room for one is fine), nice garden and decent size living room and kitchen.
We’ve been on a rollercoaster with houses and emotionally it affects me a lot!
First house put an offer in but changed our minds as the extension looked a bit dodgy and hadn’t been built right.
Second house we both loved needed a lot of work doing to it but we were happy still but unfortunately we got outbid.
Third house put an offer in but then one week later it was updated as sold without the estate agent telling us it had sold
Now onto the story of the current house. Lovely home, great price and ticks all the boxes. We both agreed to put an offer in.
We put an offer in on weds, they said they wanted to consider over the weekend so we said up it to asking price but no more viewings if accepted. They came back to me Friday said they accept your offer but they want me to speak to the mortgage advisor that works with the estate agent until then they will do viewings, Spoke to the advisor and then the sellers then cancelled the afternoon viewings and put it up as sold still to confirm.
My partner then decides that he is confused and doesn’t know if he wants this property now.
His saying that he doesn’t want to live in that area but didn’t think to tell me this before we got an offer accepted.
He wants to live in an area that we can’t afford as our budget doesn’t stretch that far for what we want.
We’ve also looked at around 7 houses in this area that he apparently has decided he doesn’t want to live in (the third house was also in this area)
So now we are pulling out of this perfectly good house because he doesn’t want to try and live in an area that is literally 5 min down the road from where he lives. He has lived in the same house his whole life and is saying he only wants to live in that area.
For us to live in the area he wants we need to save around another 20-30 grand. There are houses available in that area for our budget but they are tiny tiny houses with tiny second bedrooms and I don’t want a small second bedroom as the plan is we hopefully have 2 children and the room is way too small to even fit bunk beds in!
Every house we’ve been in with the small second bedroom we have both said Na it’s too small and now his saying it don’t bother him just because he wants to live in that particular area
Then another thing that’s making me really angry is that his happy to look an area that is close to where he lives now and says that area is fine even tho his never lived there so how would he know he would be happy there.
I’m going out of my mind and I feel really angry with him that his putting me through all of this.
He must have known when we put the offer in if he didn’t want to live in that area.
I’m the one who does all the negotiating with estate agents etc and dealing with the mortgage broker etc not him.
I really feel like this is breaking our relationship