Emotional sellers - tips for letting go?

[innercityblues]

I'm leaving my lovely house in the perfect location following a marital split. I'm grateful for the time I've had here with my kids, I know it's too big to maintain on my own in the longer term, and think I am ready to embrace a new place on my own terms, as part of establishing a secure future for myself.

But as the late summer sun plays across the garden I've tended for 15 years, and I hear the birds sing, I feel so sad. Anyone else struggling with an emotional move?

I think it’s about accepting that you’ll feel sad even if you’re ready for a change. I did have a little cry when we were leaving the last house even though I was very keen to move.

Me and the kids are moving out of the family home. It's a lovely cottage, in a beautiful location and with a stunning view. It's been a real process coming to terms with my children not getting to grow up in this amazing wild area.
I've managed to scrape the money together to buy a tiny house, in a town, small garden no view.
Very slowly I've become more and more excited about having my own place and a new start.
I was listening to something on the radio about the cyclical nature of women, every ten years we get to redefine ourselves. So it's feels less of a lose now and more of an adventure

Think about handing the house on to another family who can love it as much as you do.

I totally understand... The poor woman who bought our house had to deal with me sobbing about "my baby's room" as I handed her the spare keys!

Oh god I know so much how you feel!

Sold/Moved out of the beautiful, big, super gardened family home in April post split. I have had to move away from London, my home for most of my life, to a medium size house on the south coast to ensure my financial stability. I was devastated, I have dreamt about my old house so many times since moving.

Now four months later I can say I am getting used to it, I'm slowly getting more into my house and area and planning changes to make my new house/garden more mine. Distance helps, and time. Getting my stuff out and sorted to make it more mine. Just got to get DD settled to school and a routine established, I am hoping that will accelerate the process too ( moving during Lockdown didn't help either!!)

It's the connection to her early childhood that I am mourning - remember her taking her first steps on the landing, all the birthday parties. In fact it is a form of mourning and you have realise that and give yourself leeway and permission to mourn, it's not stupid to have these feelings.

Time will help - things won't be perfect the day you move in, remember that.

Going through a split is hard! Loosing your home, your secure base is part of that. its an overused phrase - but be kind to yourself when you feel sad.

Thanks everyone . That was a big move, Vintage - hope things continue to move in the right direction for you. You are right about mourning and about the destabilising effects of losing a secure base during turbulent times.

I still yearn for my childhood home.
I think it's a type of grief and to treat it as such, allow yourself to feel sad, you'll probably always
miss it but that doesn't mean you won't find happiness in another home.