I've dipped my toe in here a couple of times but tonight I had an argument with DH in car and I could do with some outside thoughts.
We sold our house quite quickly recently and while we are waiting for that to complete we are looking for a new home.
The thing is, DH and I just don't seem to be on the same page when it gets to the actual viewing. We agree over what we are looking for, both pick things out we like etc then when we physically get there I can tell by just looking at him that he's not digging it. "The face" goes on (no words necessary)
Our sale fell through a few years ago after our offer had been accepted on a property and the whole chain crashed. We have since had DD3 and parked the move until now.
To begin with he restricted the move to an unrealistic budget and area and nothing was coming up that we could afford. We viewed quite a lot but there was never the "right" thing. He kept saying "stuff comes on the market all the time, something will come up" - a year on plus we were no further forward. So I had a bit of a hissy fit about the need for us to broaden where we were looking and eventually he agreed we could increase the search areas (He travels for work but not in a conventional Mon-Fri 9-5 way because he is self employed).
Anyway, we are now at the point of needing to find something pronto and his "deliberation" and pickiness is driving me nuts. This move is not going to be a "forever home" one as we can't make that leap in one go. We will need to move in another few years potentially if what we think we want is still relevant to us then.
We viewed a property last week that we put a verbal offer in on but he later admitted that he didn't like the house so that didn't progress. This week he has had home reports for x,y,z properties and tonight we packed all the kids in the car for a couple of hours to view this do it upper and he hadn't even seen the inside of this beautiful house before "the face" went on.
We pottered around for an hour before the lady let us in. I had to feed the kids chips and I just don't know why he bothered to make us all wait when it was obvious from his face before we went in that he wasn't going to go for it.
I think the actual problem is that I'm a complete go getter, see opportunities and possibilities everywhere and I get really disheartened by his "glass is half empty" boring, manchild shite.
The house today needed a lot doing to it but it's way under what our ceiling is and we've done this type of thing before so we aren't completely fresh faced.
Anyway, I'm just feeling deflated and a bit bored of having to invest emotion and vision in property after property when all my day dreams then get stomped on. I also think that DH is on this occasion being a bit of an arse.