I can’t live in my house any longer, yet I can’t sell it...

[Shadowboy]

For my mental health I need out of my house but despite being on the market 6 weeks we’ve had no offers.

We bought it in a rush as our buyers wanted to complete for school applications to ensure they made it to the catchment school in our previous area.

So it’s just to for us; it’s not somewhere I’ve settled or felt at home. It’s too boring here and the house is too ‘normal’ and new (it’s a new build) the area is just full of kids and middle class blandness. It’s getting me down. I’m stressed and feeling trapped.

The problem is we bought in the 2017 mini peak so we have house up for sale for the exact same price that we paid for it 3 years ago.... yet it’s still not selling. New exact versions of this house at £40k more! (And are selling like hot cakes)

I can’t explain how tight in the chest I feel at the thought of another few years here...

I’m not sure what I want from this post- perhaps just an opportunity to vent my feelings.

How long have you lived there? Have you always hated the house or is it just during lockdown? Are you still working from home or are you commuting again?

I think lots of people were sick of their houses/local areas whilst we couldn’t go anywhere.

Ftmf30 - I have no issue with my home. It’s wonderful. I do take issue with people who find themselves in a nice, safe environment and can’t find happiness within themselves.

Rule number 1 as a teacher ...never live in your catchment area.

40k is too much of a premium just to have the house first-hand. There must be some other issue.

But it won’t just be 40k.

It will be part exchanges, solicitors fees paid, upgraded extras. Op can’t offer that sort of thing.

It will be part exchanges, solicitors fees paid, upgraded extras. Op can’t offer that sort of thing.

So the difference is actually smaller. Maybe ‘help to buy’? Also, it makes a difference whether it’s the difference on 600k home or 200k home.

You really need to work on your mental health and/or your Zen. You just don't like your house or the area you live in. It's not a crisis!

Nothing helpful to add but I do understand that terrible feeling of wanting to move but feeling stuck (mainly due to the pandemic) ATM. We live in a small village full of ignorant inbreds!

If you drop the price it will sell. I know that's hard but if you are desperate to move its the only way

have a hot tub, have never called it a sex pond! (and have never had sex in it!)

Why not?

Perhaps consider that you might be at least part of the problem OP.

Nothing interesting happens? Why don't you make something interesting happen? Start a bookclub, organise a street party, invite your neighbours over for a drink?

Boring neighbours? Be grateful you don't live next to 'interesting' neighbours as so many people on here do.

Only you can really know how 'bad' the problem is, but do bear in mind that wherever you move, you will be taking yourself with you.

You do come across as a bit sneery and superior from your posts, how much do you think that is also coming across to your community?

In your shoes, alongside trying to sell the house, I would also be having some therapy and seriously reflecting on the reasonableness or otherwise of my expectations.

12 viewings in 6 weeks sounds ok. I've sold 3 houses (all in good condition and appropriately priced) and it can take a while to sell sometimes. Maybe you could ask your estate agent for feedback from the next few viewings if you haven't had any yet? It might be good to get some help for your anxiety too, as I'm sure you know selling houses can be quite a long game.

If you can't change your circumstances you need to change your attitude to your circumstances. I would seriously look at a) meditation b) improving your day to day life in different ways
Otherwise you will be stuck feeling unhappy for months...

It sold- oddly about 3 days after posting. Thanks all.

We’ve also very happily had an offer accepted on a property we really like.... we just have to hope it all goes through.

The relief I feel is amazing.

@Shadowboy

It sold- oddly about 3 days after posting. Thanks all.

We’ve also very happily had an offer accepted on a property we really like.... we just have to hope it all goes through.

The relief I feel is amazing.

I'm really happy to hear that! I can definitely empathise with feeling trapped. Enjoy your new home!