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Hate my new house

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Grumpybuttons · 20/05/2020 14:10

I’ve just bought a new house and I absolutely hate it. When we viewed it (3 times) it was peaceful and felt homely.

Now we’re in and our neighbour 2 doors down is mouthy and unpleasant (not directly to us) and the house just feels awful to be in.

We had downsized from a large 3 bed semi to a 2 bed semi - I am so regretful but the tiny mortgage does financially make lots of sense. especially at the moment.

I just feel so unsettled and strange will I settle in eventually?

Obviously I can’t just sell up and go now we have a recession.

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GreyishDays · 20/05/2020 21:14

Can you buy some bamboo to screen the neighbour?

Samtsirch · 20/05/2020 21:43

You will settle in, look upon this as an adjustment period.
Once you get to know your neighbours you may find others share your concerns, or you may find out more about the noisy neighbour, which helps you to understand and tolerate him.
This neighbour may not live near you forever, and may go back to work at some point.
Remember, everyone’s situation is different at the moment and things won’t always be as they are now.

prolapsedmama · 20/05/2020 22:16

You always get to know the worst neighbours first. You probably have a whole street of lovely ones!

Moving is emotional. It takes a good few weeks to feel settled. And this is a weird time. Under normal circumstances people would be at work or school or going out. Also, how often is the weather like this?! Once it goes back to being overcast your neighbours will be inside and you can relax!

Singinginshower · 21/05/2020 06:12

Maybe after lockdown he'll be going out to work during the daytime?
I do sympathise as my own neighbours can be very loud at times, but in my case they do work long hours, so it isn't constant.

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Grumpybuttons · 21/05/2020 07:43

@prolapsedmama you are so right! :)

I think I do have a whole street of lovely ones.

Got a builder arriving today to have a look at the house outside while we’re all inside and socially distancing - to see where he can extend. Not sure if we’ll do any building work now though - if we plan to move in 2021. We’ll just have to see.

Literally woke up with that feeling of “Ive made a huge mistake!” in my stomach

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Badgertastic · 21/05/2020 08:17

We bought a house 3 years ago after falling in love with it. The first night we slept there I cried in the arms of my husband asking him if we had done the right thing. Huge buyers regret. Roll on a few days when we'd got more settled in and furniture where it should be, I calmed down. A couple of weeks down the line I loved it and still do today. Best move we ever made. But if you would have asked me in that first few weeks it would have been a different answer.
Since lockdown the area has become noisier during the day with all the kids and a lot of the adults being at home, it took a few weeks but I've got used to the change in noise levels, and I know it is only temporary. I still love it. If I want peace and quiet and that's not available in the garden at a particular time I go to a quiet room. But there are plenty of times when I go outside and feel like I'm the only one out there for a while.

Neron · 21/05/2020 16:18

I had buyers regret too OP, it has passed but definately had the WTF have I done moment.

Also neighbours, I've currently got next door but 1 playing their music all day every sunny day, then the other side but 2 gardens along playing their music all day too. We've been here a couple of months and I'm sure they are nice people, but their music is giving me the rage and for that I dislike them. I do wish I had zero neighbours

littlemeitslyn · 21/05/2020 18:02

'Fewer toilets ' 🤣🤣🤣🤣

BeijingBikini · 21/05/2020 18:51

Don't worry, it will get better. I have lived in my flat for 4 years and it has always been super quiet, no issues. Now suddenly I am hearing music playing from balconies all day, noisy souped-up car going in and out 5 times a day, screaming baby, loads of gardeners, man downstairs on phone loudly several times a day, and upstairs neighbours running up and down the stairs all day for cigarette breaks. It is definitely a Lockdown Special, normally the entire road is dead silent.

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Grumpybuttons · 21/05/2020 20:20

@Neron wow!! How are you coping with all that noise?

I’ve been happier today and felt a bit more settled. I guess the regretful / worried feeling will come and go.

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Neron · 21/05/2020 20:49

Not very well @Grumpybuttons ! I was light hearted about it last week when one of the neighbours was letting their kids sing karaoke in the garden, and I was going to sing along. Now I'm just sick of the noise, but acted like a twat myself when I put mine on today to drown them out. Could still hear the thump thump over the sound of my ear buds and if I turned it up any more I would have deafened myself so gave in and played it out loud. I hope it's just this situation making people behave unreasonably

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Grumpybuttons · 21/05/2020 20:54

@Neron I really hope so too. Are you thinking of moving again soon?

We have wind and rain here at the moment and it’s bliss. Autumn and Winter are going to be nice at least

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Neron · 21/05/2020 21:01

@Grumpybuttons no not for a while, this place is a renovation and it'll take is a while to do it up as trying to do most of it ourselves. It sounds similar to you in that I love the area, good walks, open space, it's quiet (normally). I think the initial buyers remorse and this situation, plus I'm living in a building site doesn't help. I also need to chill out a bit and relax.
I really hope you settle OP, it's such an awful time for you to have moved and the situation cannot be helping things

Snakeplisskensmum · 24/02/2021 09:44

Sorry to resurrect this thread but just wondering how everyone is doing and if you've settled? I am going through buyers remorse right now and would love some good new stories!

Seatime · 24/02/2021 10:16

You made a good financial decision, well done, that's a priority in the covid era. Go out and find your favourite walks, treat yourself to a nice cappachino or whatever you like. Focus on the positives for now.

Grimbelina · 24/02/2021 17:57

I think buyer's remorse right now is hard to separate from everything else that is going on, with everyone being at home, so much anxiety, and so cold and miserable still. I have moved twice in the last 12 months and am completely disorientated!

I just read an article about relationships falling apart during lockdown and the advice was to try and muddle through and then to see if things picked up a few months after we all get back to normal (whatever that looks like...).

This really applies to moving right now: give it 6 months or so and see how you feel at the end of the summer.

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