Possible pandemic madness but i'm not sure about my home. Move after a short time possible?

[fringeandtrainers]

Hello! Hope everyone is doing ok.
We moved into a new house around 6/7 months ago. Have done up the kitchen and a few other bits. I've tried to enjoy living here and there are things I really like about it but i've got a seed of doubt in my head that I just don't quite feel at home here. It's the second home my partner and I have bought together and although our last house needed work/had its good points and bad points, I did feel at home there. Nice neighbours, close to old areas I Lived in etc.
This home is a lovely home but i'm not really into the area. I know that's probably made more difficult by having to stay in all the time (I'm also 8 months pregnant)
Also, we are the end of terrace and our neighbours have cranked up their music in the garden every day for a week (we are talking window shaking stuff) which is making me feel even more anxious. My partner has had friendly words with them but he got pretty miffed on Sunday and I think there is bad feeling there. That's made me think, nope, don't love it. Like the straw that broke the camel's back!
Anyway, it's not like we can move immediately and I don't really feel like I can talk to my partner right now (he's great, but I want to try and work things out myself and just check i'm not a pandemic hormonal mess)
Has anyone been in the same position (re:the house) and what did you do? I don't mean to sound ungrateful, I know people are having a pretty hard time out there. There's just a lot of doubt and stress in my head! Thank you.

I wonder if this is nesting kicking in, making you feel all "urgh" about where you live. You can't do anything while in lockdown anyway. I would try to mentally park it for the next 6 months and see how you feel down the line.

To answer your question, we only stayed a year in our first house and we've never regretted moving on. But the next year or so is uncertain times.

What’s your LTV? If you are 75% + you might have to get your head around sticking it out if prices fall by say 20%.

Is it the area or the house? Can you list out the pros and cons of what you thought when you bought it, 6 months in and now on lock down?

This might show you that it’s temporary?

I think many people are questioning where they live in lockdown - it’s a v unreal situation to have your neighbours next door 24/7. But hopefully just temporary. I also agree that nesting is kicking in and it must a million times more stressful than normal to be facing giving birth right now.

Thank you so much for your replies. It's helpful to get it out, albeit anonymously. You may be right.
I've had an online valuation (done at 3am!) and I think we bought slightly below value anyway and looking at houses that have sold recently, I don't think we'd lose much, if anything. But like you say, these are bonkers times. Our LTV is 80%. I also need/want to change my job after the next maternity leave so I think that's the pillar I need to tackle next anyway! I'm a bit of a planner and I like to have things sorted so anything that gets in the way (noisy neighbours, worldwide pandemics for example!!) throws me. Especially when hormones kick in too! I'll defo list pros and cons and try to accept it all! Plus park it for 6 months too, give myself a deadline.
Thank goodness for easter eggs and disney life (I also have a very rambunctious 3 year old who is defo feeling the effects too!)

we moved after 5 months in our last house. Hated it!

And how did that go? Did you own?

My friend lives on the edge of town, has got built up to their doorstep. What was a quiet lane is now busier than the M4 with not just the dog walkers of the past year but 2000 people from the new houses.
Theirs is going on the market as soon as lockdown is over. Hopefully will sell to one of the estate people as it's far far nicer than their new boxes.

In your case, I'd actually wait till after baby has arrived - you may find you make new friends very locally as a consequence, and that can change your whole perception of the place. Then you'd be looking to move for schools.

I think our neighbours are really affecting my view of the place as they play their music in the garden every day in this weather so i'm dreading the summer. We've asked them to turn it down but they are still not being super reasonable with levels. Who can be in a garden? I just know it's going to be a challenging summer!
I won't be here next year if that is the case!
Sorry, just letting off steam

Selfish neighbours like yours can completely ruin your view of a place. They sound awful and so inconsiderate, pisses me right off when people behave like that. I don’t mind normal noise and even the occasional late party but not constant music when everyone is trying to enjoy their gardens.

Thank you! Yes, we've spoken to them a few times about it and they have been mostly reasonable and turned it down but now the nice weather has started they evidently think that because it is their garden they can do what they like. 8 months pregnant and full of rage! Plus with everything going on, wobbling on the edge of insanity anyway. BREATHE.

Thank you so much for your replies though, it's really helped to make me feel a little better...

Going to watch a movie this evening and try and unclench my jaw

It took me over a year to feel 'at home' in my last place; I stayed there 12 years and miss it still, so you never know you might get to like this one.

yes we owned. moved in last october, house up for sale this feb. sold!

it was just wrong house and wrong location. yet on paper perfect (nicer, bigger )house and great location. we moved to a different part of the country.

Not sure whether you're aware but there's a local by-law that says you're allowed to "take out" (actual quote from website) any neighbours who play music in the back garden and/or make excessive noise.......It's under the heading Selfish Bastard Arsewipes.

I know exactly what you mean OP. My now DH bought our current home when we were early twenties and had been together a year or so, so it was his house but I moved in. We've been here 8 years now, got married and had 2 children in that time and it's never felt like home. Our plan was to stay here for about 10 years and then buy our 'forever' home. He would have been happy to stay for the 10 years, but we started looking tentatively a couple of years ago because I was fed up. We've now had an offer accepted on what we want but it needs extending and renovating, so we'll be here another year or two by the time the sale completes and we do the work which incidentally will take us up to about 10 years. We hoped the sale would complete by the end of June, but obviously it's all on hold now. We are not sure whether we're bonkers by proceeding in such difficult times, but we'll live there for the next 40 years, our LTV is low and DH (who is a chartered surveyor) still thinks it's a good idea on balance.

I really sympathise with you, because I've found it really difficult to feel settled whilst having the children here.

Good to know about the by law! Will do it today. Looking fairly sumo wrestler like with my bump so perfect for taking people out.

And thank you for the info about selling quickly. Do you mind me asking - did you lose out at all? Definitely feeling those unsettled vibes.

Thank you! All so genuinely helpful and supportive

We bought and sold our first place in 18 months due to noisy neighbours... We didn’t lose money as we did it up so increased value enough to cover cost of moving twice. Financially we would have been better off staying there longer but awful neighbours meant it wouldn't have been worth it. They played music at full volume any time of day, smoked weed (other drugs too no doubt but that’s the only one that wafted int9 our garden), luckily they weren’t aggressive but they just wouldn’t stop being so inconsiderate.
I had radio 4 on at a moderate volume all the time to try to disguise it and slept with ear plugs in.
As PP says, you can’t do anything about it yet so should put it on the shelf to some extent, but if I were you I would do a bit of research and planning into moving, as it may help you get through lockdown knowing that you can potentially move and that you’re not stuck.
Sending sympathy.

Thank goodness for radio 4! I find myself turning on classical music in a passive aggressive way the minute I hear it too. They are Romanian and occasionally like to blare out a bit of Romanian folk too. I said to my friend yesterday that it would be like me getting Chas and Dave on for fun, which might come across a bit brexity!